Breaking point

I’m at breaking point. I’m so exhausted.
My AB has been up every 20-40 mins for for 2-3ish hours at a time, then up for a wake window of 6 hours then 2 hours if I’m lucky before my alarm to go to work goes off, this has been going on for 3 weeks, I’m at breaking point, I’m in tears writing this, AB is shattered too on a night when he is up he’s just violent, biting, hitting, scratching, kicking, throwing toys at me. He’s just angry. He’s so exhausted but he just can’t stay asleep no matter what I try.
This is effecting every aspect of my life now, I’ve received a disciplinary at work due to making mistakes cause I’m so sleep deprived, colleagues are referring to me as ‘the zombie’ cause of the bags under my eyes, my mental healths taken a massive drop, I don’t see it getting any better.
My partner is great during day but on a night he’s as much use as a chocolate teapot

The separation anxiety is insane, I’m really struggling here xxxx

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I'm so sorry to hear this 🫶🏼 A few things - sleep deprivation and fatigue are real, could you get yourself signed off sick? Even just for two weeks. You can self-certify for the first week. I just think you need some time and I don't think being in work will help.

Secondly, could you co-sleep for a bit? Not forever, but your little one seems to be calling out for connection. It won't form a bad habit I promise, it just gives them that comfort they need at this sort of stage and also push hopefully bring you some longer stretches!

Give yourself some grace, this will pass but right now it's really hard. Sending love 🫶🏼 x

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We've been going through it too but seems to getting better now.

What's baby's routine ?

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My little one has his molars coming through and it makes it really hard to sleep at night with constant waking.
Normal Calpol doesn’t help but the ibuprofen version - that helps reduce inflammation - does.
My husband also takes him out in the pram for a 3-4 hour walk after work. Give him some food snacks and all weather gear then go straight to sleep. 3 hours of sleep without a wake up makes all the difference.

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I’m at breaking point. I’m so exhausted.
My AB has been up every 20-40 mins for for 2-3ish hours at a time, then up for a wake window of 6 hours then 2 hours if I’m lucky before my alarm to go to work goes off, this has been going on for 3 weeks, I’m at breaking point, I’m in tears writing this, AB is shattered too on a night when he is up he’s just violent, biting, hitting, scratching, kicking, throwing toys at me. He’s just angry. He’s so exhausted but he just can’t stay asleep no matter what I try.
This is effecting every aspect of my life now, I’ve received a disciplinary at work due to making mistakes cause I’m so sleep deprived, colleagues are referring to me as ‘the zombie’ cause of the bags under my eyes, my mental healths taken a massive drop, I don’t see it getting any better.
My partner is great during day but on a night he’s as much use as a chocolate teapot

The separation anxiety is insane, I’m really struggling here xxxx

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