Struggling to read cues
I'm a 1st time Mum and my boy is just over 4 weeks. I feel like I'm still struggling to read his cues. It feels like the time between me realising hes hungry and him having a full meltdown is 2 seconds. I feel awful every time he cries. Am I being too harsh on myself? Do babies just cry and its fine and I need to just relax. At what point did you feel like you knew what your baby wanted?
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My 6 week old is my second and i still struggle. Her cries are very much the same at this point (HV they start becoming different at about 8 weeks). My little one also goes 0-100 when she is hungry so usually there are no cues! Definitely cut yourself some slack, it is tough going!
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Freezing hands at night!
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I always feel extremely bad when I pick her up to cuddle in the morning and those little hands are freezing. I know some people are using the built in mittens of the sleepsuit but it doesn’t work for her because she self soothes during the night by sucking her hands so having them covered wouldn’t work for her!
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How many feeds?
How many feeds is baby having overnight?
Baby is nearly 7 weeks old. He tends to fall asleep downstairs on one of us around 8pm, then when we go up to bed around 10-11pm we give a bottle of formula.
He then sleeps until around 2-3am when he wakes for a nappy change and a breastfeed. He will then go back down until around 5am when we do another change and breastfeed. At this point he gets quite fussy in the next to me so I tend to bring him into bed with me to get more sleep until 7-8am
What are your nights looking like?
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Struggling to read cues
I'm a 1st time Mum and my boy is just over 4 weeks. I feel like I'm still struggling to read his cues. It feels like the time between me realising hes hungry and him having a full meltdown is 2 seconds. I feel awful every time he cries. Am I being too harsh on myself? Do babies just cry and its fine and I need to just relax. At what point did you feel like you knew what your baby wanted?
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