Abusive Partner

Me and my partner got back together after a break when I found out I’m pregnant. Long story short we’ve both been with different people in the meantime, difference is - he lied about it a lot and then told one of them I’m pregnant and kept other one on LinkedIn. Few weeks ago I found out that he’s been watching porn, so there’s no trust whatsoever.
Today ive told him off for not sterilising bottles as sets, because I can’t feed the baby and he tried to kick me so I threw the bottle at him and then he actually did kick me… I’m so fed up, I don’t know how to leave, I have absolutely nothing

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Hello my dear ❤️ As you already know, this isn’t a healthy relationship ☹️ Neither of you should be throwing things at each other or physically hurting one another. The fact that he actually kicked you is really concerning, because a line has been crossed here, and there’s a risk it could happen again.
You both need to take this seriously. If you genuinely want to make things work, you need to seek professional help, like a therapist for couple but only if it’s safe to do so. Otherwise, you need to seriously consider walking away. You deserve to feel safe, loved and respected, not to live in fear of what might happen next.
At the end of the day, he is just a man 🙃 Your baby and your own well-being are so much more important. You and your little one should always come first. ❤️ Please don’t minimise what happened or convince yourself it’s okay, because it isn’t.

Yea I’m honestly just disgusted with both of our behaviours at this point. I’m not sure I want to make it work.. i used to think he was the love of my life now I don’t think I have any feelings for him anymore.
I’m just so tired of it all and just want to be happy

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