Potty training encouragement
Guys - I am bawling right now. I feel like a failure. We have been trying to potty train my toddler for about 1.5 months or so. We started with an intensive weekend, and that didnt stick. So we have been trying (in this order) pantless, underwear, pull ups - no success. We have tried letting her tell us, scheduled sits, all that. She doesnt care that shes wet or peed on the floor. She was kind of consistently going at least once a day on the potty. Now, its like she is regressing! Shes 27 months. Over the past 7 or so days- absolute REFUSAL to even sit on the potty most times. The few times she does actually sit, she wont go. She will wait until she stands up and goes shortly thereafter. She hasn't gone in the potty in like 4 days?
Guys, everyone told me girls are easier, but this isnt easy. Its like she just doesnt care or doesnt get it.
I feel so hopeless and like a failure. I dont know what else to do!!! I am so upset im crying about it all. I just want to give up.
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Potty training sucksssss and is hard but you are not failing! It’s super stressful in the beginning but I think what worked for me when I feel like my son was regressing was we took a break for a couple of weeks. Sometimes when they aren’t getting the concept they just aren’t ready. It’s ok to take a break and try later. I pushed and pushed my son and nothing was working so we took a break for a month then kept trying and he eventually got it. He’s now three and fully potty trained. But also give yourself some grace. You are doing great!
My little one is turning 3 next month and still in diapers. Initially had more interest in potty training but now she flat out refuses. I've tried all of the above, including bribery, nothing works. Mine doesnt pee on the floor but she will hold it. Once i needed a urine sample for the doctor and she held that pee from morning until 3pm despite constantly giving her things to drink. As soon as the diaper went on she peed. Honestly I'm not stressed about it. She will learn eventually.
They only need to be independent on the toilet at school. Why stress about making them now? Both of mine decided they didnt want to wear nappies at 3.5. By then they had enough bladder and bowel control to use the toilet without accidents almost instantly.
I'm not there yet, my LO is only 3 months, but my SIL used m&ms. She gave them 1 m&m everytime they tried it, 1 for wiping correctly, and 1 for washing their hands. I think you could assign a few more tasks and make a game out of it. She is a preschool teacher and it took the kids 3 days to learn the system. My nephew still had occassional accidents because he wouldn't want to stop playing, but my niece picked it up with little issue. This is one area that bribery/games might benefit you over the stress. Good luck!
Your daughter is pretty young still. I don’t think it warrants being too worried yet. Our Pediatrician told us not to push it if she wasn’t showing readiness, she will be more interested closer to 3yo. In daycare kids started using the potty and it was like dominos and all the kids were potty trained after that. My LO started really trying a couple months before turning 3, and fully potty trained at 3.
Mamas please be patient with the little ones and yourself it’s just how it is
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Guys - I am bawling right now. I feel like a failure. We have been trying to potty train my toddler for about 1.5 months or so. We started with an intensive weekend, and that didnt stick. So we have been trying (in this order) pantless, underwear, pull ups - no success. We have tried letting her tell us, scheduled sits, all that. She doesnt care that shes wet or peed on the floor. She was kind of consistently going at least once a day on the potty. Now, its like she is regressing! Shes 27 months. Over the past 7 or so days- absolute REFUSAL to even sit on the potty most times. The few times she does actually sit, she wont go. She will wait until she stands up and goes shortly thereafter. She hasn't gone in the potty in like 4 days?
Guys, everyone told me girls are easier, but this isnt easy. Its like she just doesnt care or doesnt get it.
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