Help from partners

He is selfish. You both are parents he needs to step. If he wants a family he needs to invest time and resources and put the Same energy as his job.

I would be lost without the help and support of my husband. He comes home from work every evening 5/5.30 and is fully hands on with the kids from he comes in the door. He likes to do bed time most nights and is fully present at the weekends. I even get to the gym 2/3 evenings a week while I leave him at home to get both gets ready and into bed.

So yes, you have every right to be annoyed and feeling like he isn’t supporting you like he should. Very frustrating and exhausting to leave all the ‘parenting’ jobs to you. Xx

You are absolutely not expecting too much. I always feel like I'm bragging when I talk about my husband on here, but truly it's the standard all men should be held to. My husband works full-time usually 50+ hours/week and still does the bath/bed time routine for our toddler almost every night (if he's home on time). On his days off he usually makes at least one of the meals and actively engages with all of our kids. He takes them to activities when he's home. He knows their schedules/clothing sizes/appointments. I know that if I were to die tomorrow, my children would be incredibly well taken care of, and he would be able to handle it all- because he already does. That is the standard we should be holding all men to. I'm so sorry that is not what you're getting from your partner.

You’re absolutely not expecting too much, you both agreed to have a baby, when he’s not working he should be helping.
If you’re a stay at home mum that’s a 24 hour role, there is no clocking off. He can clock out of work, not out of being a parent.
Myself and my partner both work demanding full time jobs, then we both cook and clean, he does bath time every night; I do bedtime. He gets up with him in the morning so I can get ready for work, then we switch and he goes to get ready, 90% of the time I get downstairs and our little one is dressed bag packed and ready for nursery.

We both decided to be parents, so we both are

I set this expectation with my partner before I had a baby with him. I was a single parent in a marriage before and I said I'd not do it again. I'd do it solo because I absolutely can, because I did.
He's taken that very much on board and is the most present, hands dad. He does two nights minimum so I can sleep, up until a few months ago all the night changes (because she used my body as a bathroom for 9 months 🤣) and will do bath/bed while I wrangle my older kiddo, but if I'm on baby duty, he'll muck in with son as well! They go out and have fun independently of me.
It's a partnership anything else is just selfish, kike wanting a family but not to be an actual parent.

Jimmy in relationships do some great videos in this (he's been a main earner AND stay at home Dad)

Hi I don't know your exact situation but I have felt very similar up until very recently. The thing is, my husband started his own business and so he was very flexible and he would often even tell me that the whole day he hasn't been doing much at work so I was extremely resentful when he would come home and not dive straight into helping me. A few months ago he grabbed his business by the balls though and works from the moment he wakes up all the way till he falls asleep and also on the weekends and even though there was resentment at first (and even now sometimes too) I started telling myself that we are a team and he does things that I couldn't do, meaning, paying for all our bills, giving us this amazing big space to live and all the money is for me to use. And I do things that he can't always get up to do, e.g get kids ready in the morning, help me with bedtime etc. I find it hard to imagine that a businessman of a husband can still come home and turn off his phone

And be completely present, especially early on in building his business. If he is employed somewhere and flexible at that then I would demand a little more initiative and help but just personally for me I am trying to learn to appreciate and respect his role in our family which with all respect I literally couldn't and wouldn't want to do. That just made me contemplate that as much as he often comes home to a fresh hot dinner and clean house and asleep children not knowing what it took of me I always have security and plenty of money on my bank account because of all the work that he puts in and I don't see