Advice needed
I feel like I am at breaking point with my relationship. We’ve been together 3 years, we’re engaged and have a 20 month old together.
However, he does nothing around the house. He doesn’t help with dinner, bath or bed. I WFH 3 days a week and 1 day in the office so my WFH days, our daughter finishes at 1PM and he finishes work at 3PM so the plan was meant to be he would take care of her until I finish work once he’s home but he doesn’t so I have to work after our daughter whilst trying to work, which is difficult with a toddler😂
My problem is, we live an hour and a half away from my family so going back there isn’t really an option as I’d be moving my daughter away from her nursery, which she loves and his family. We currently live with his nan as we were saving for a house and our wedding.
I just don’t know what to do, I can only tell him how I feel so many times and I just feel like I have no one to talk to.
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Have you sat down and asked him plainly why he isn’t helping? Communication is one of the most important parts of any relationship.
If you’ve already done that, it sounds like he needs a consequence. This gives him a chance to step up x
Yeah I have, I’ve told him so many times about how I feel. He says he needs me to tell him what to do but I’ve done that as well so I can’t keep saying the same thing over and over again x
I say truly, just don’t do anything for him or that is needed for him. As for your daughter, maybe try just leave him with her and see how he gets on. He’s gonna learn how to do it himself, don’t do it for him. Like does he clean up in the house or buy anything for the house??
Anything that extra he can do?
He definitely does need to step up.
Hope this helps.
😊 xo
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