Had enough.
My husband and I will be married 7 years this December. We’ve got 2 kids. 2 and a half year old and nearly 3 month old. We’ve nearly divorced many times after massive arguments but this time I feel like it’s coming to an end for real. We have never spoke about an argument and things that are wrong, we just start randomly talking again after a few days. A lot has built up now and there’s a lot I can’t forget. Anyway I think we are just trying to stay together for the kids because it’s easier. We don’t have a village. We would need each other for the kids atm as they’re only babies. But we both also know that we are done. We just need to have the dreaded convo. Any advice girls? It’s annoying cos when I really imagine us splitting up, it makes me sad? Not cos 7 years will be wasted but because we couldn’t work it out. And the main reason is because he’s just a deadbeat husband tbh and I’m done putting up with it. He never agrees he is and he is starting to become a narcissist. I don’t know what to do. I know if we really finally did couples therapy or really worked on it, we could figure it out. At the same time, too much damage has been done and I shouldn’t have to put up with it anymore. I’m torn.
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you said perhaps with couples therapy you could figure it out? You also said you never really spoke through the issues after an argument so sounds like you guys brush off the issues until it builds again?
Do you think with the right support and if you saw real long lasting change that you could forgive him slowly?
If you haven’t tried it & y’all need to stay together for the kids, I would strongly recommend couples therapy. It may not “fix the relationship” but it can certainly help y’all move forward with co-parenting!
I think a “roommate” situation is doable if you’re able to work out boundaries and create separate living space so y’all have privacy from each other. Less husband & wife roles, more roommates doing their share around the house & with the kids. At least until you’re able to move out if you move forward with a divorce.
Best of luck to you mama 🫶🏼
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My family (parents, my siblings and their partners) went out to dinner last night for my sisters birthday.
My partner and I were sitting at the end and were the first to arrive. My brother and SIL arrived next and were polite but they sat down 2 seats away from us, my brother on my side, my SIL on my son's. One side of the table was a long booth. This is issue one.
During dinner, I was using chopsticks and while I am not bad, I am not profficiant. I asked my partner how he uses chopsticks so well and he responded "because i'm not a retard". I told him I hate that word and he knows it so why did he use it and asked why he called me an r. He didn't respond. This is issue 2.
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My husband earns more than triple the amount than me. He pays for the rent and half of the utility Bills plus the internet bill monthly and his own bills. Where as I pay for the weekly food shopping, childcare, kids sports, school fees, half of the utility bills plus anything the kids need ( we are also saving for a house deposit so I’m saving as well, whereas normally I’d pay half rent as well) So after all that I have no money left. Yet my husband still has money left to buy coffee 3 times a day, junk food every night, multiple packs of cigarettes, the expensive toothpaste, beauty products etc
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Guys, everyone told me girls are easier, but this isnt easy. Its like she just doesnt care or doesnt get it.
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Had enough.
My husband and I will be married 7 years this December. We’ve got 2 kids. 2 and a half year old and nearly 3 month old. We’ve nearly divorced many times after massive arguments but this time I feel like it’s coming to an end for real. We have never spoke about an argument and things that are wrong, we just start randomly talking again after a few days. A lot has built up now and there’s a lot I can’t forget. Anyway I think we are just trying to stay together for the kids because it’s easier. We don’t have a village. We would need each other for the kids atm as they’re only babies. But we both also know that we are done. We just need to have the dreaded convo. Any advice girls? It’s annoying cos when I really imagine us splitting up, it makes me sad? Not cos 7 years will be wasted but because we couldn’t work it out. And the main reason is because he’s just a deadbeat husband tbh and I’m done putting up with it. He never agrees he is and he is starting to become a narcissist. I don’t know what to do. I know if we really finally did couples therapy or really worked on it, we could figure it out. At the same time, too much damage has been done and I shouldn’t have to put up with it anymore. I’m torn.
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