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Been in long term relationship 7 years with my partner, have 3 kids not married live together in my house under my name, he has his own flat hardly ever there, this whole year has been bit off with my partner towards me and I don’t know why, when it comes to Mother’s Day or my birthday he doesn’t do anything or involve the kids.

recently my birthday came and no one said happy birthday to me the whole day felt very upset, I confronted him why and he states it was a misunderstanding (he didn’t forget and claimed told two oldest- they clearly didn’t acknowledge what he said) of a casual convo we had weeks prior despite me talking about it in advance and states will do something the following week but he never did or forgotten about it.

Now I feel uncomfortable when it comes to his birthday and Father’s Day as I always go all out or if I can’t do or get something I always tell him, the problem is it’s been like this past few years or think of last minute but my birthday this year is now making me question our future, it’s my 30th next year and I’m already filled with dread of disappointment already plus I’m a stay at mum for the past 6 years too, he’s been questioning my parenting skills in terms of discipline thinks I’m being too lenient or soft.

I don’t have it in to not get something small for his occasion as I always involve the kids with it and starting to think we got different vision of family life and values, scared to let go of the relationship as I don’t think he’ll be civil about it and has a slight temper

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Hi everyone! I’m a 20yo mom to a beautiful baby 8month baby girl. My world seems to have been shattered last night when I saw these deleted messages to his ex who he was with before me on my fiancés phone this morning (he has sent them, deleted it, and then silenced the convo so no notifications would come up). He said he was drunk and doesn’t even recall sending that (like that’s any better lmao). We’ve had issues bc of his following and liking habits of certain kinds of content on tiktok but this is beyond what I would have expected. I’m absolutely gutted and I feel like my world just ended. I hate how I wasn’t enough for him, I haven’t even been able to look at myself properly after seeing his likes and saves and now this has be disgusted in myself. I have bpd and the stress is giving me an endometriosis flare right now, I don’t have friends I can talk to. I’m making this post so I can at least pretend to talk to someone who will listen. Thank you for reading 🩷 edit: he’s been playing video games the whole night, literally 0 mention of what happened or our conversation lmao

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Hey, this is a bit sad and I’m struggling a bit on my own with a newborn, and my partner is being so off and I haven’t seen him in almost a month and I have reason to believe he is cheating and have no one else to talk to about this… I’m just wondering if anyone else is or has been in the same boat? It’s a bit of a lonely and awful boat to be in currently…

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So I am upset about 2 things;

My family (parents, my siblings and their partners) went out to dinner last night for my sisters birthday.

My partner and I were sitting at the end and were the first to arrive. My brother and SIL arrived next and were polite but they sat down 2 seats away from us, my brother on my side, my SIL on my son's. One side of the table was a long booth. This is issue one.

During dinner, I was using chopsticks and while I am not bad, I am not profficiant. I asked my partner how he uses chopsticks so well and he responded "because i'm not a retard". I told him I hate that word and he knows it so why did he use it and asked why he called me an r. He didn't respond. This is issue 2.

I am feeling more hurt about what my partner did but am upset in general.

I Need advice !!

For those who are married with children who have separate bank accounts… how does that work for you?

My husband earns more than triple the amount than me. He pays for the rent and half of the utility Bills plus the internet bill monthly and his own bills. Where as I pay for the weekly food shopping, childcare, kids sports, school fees, half of the utility bills plus anything the kids need ( we are also saving for a house deposit so I’m saving as well, whereas normally I’d pay half rent as well) So after all that I have no money left. Yet my husband still has money left to buy coffee 3 times a day, junk food every night, multiple packs of cigarettes, the expensive toothpaste, beauty products etc

Is this normal? Anyone else in this situation?

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Guys - I am bawling right now. I feel like a failure. We have been trying to potty train my toddler for about 1.5 months or so. We started with an intensive weekend, and that didnt stick. So we have been trying (in this order) pantless, underwear, pull ups - no success. We have tried letting her tell us, scheduled sits, all that. She doesnt care that shes wet or peed on the floor. She was kind of consistently going at least once a day on the potty. Now, its like she is regressing! Shes 27 months. Over the past 7 or so days- absolute REFUSAL to even sit on the potty most times. The few times she does actually sit, she wont go. She will wait until she stands up and goes shortly thereafter. She hasn't gone in the potty in like 4 days?
Guys, everyone told me girls are easier, but this isnt easy. Its like she just doesnt care or doesnt get it.
I feel so hopeless and like a failure. I dont know what else to do!!! I am so upset im crying about it all. I just want to give up.

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