venting

hello i’m 25 mother of 2 single but talking to someone and he wants me to move in with him and marry him i just met him and he is such a gentleman with a good paying job and all he told me once we get married he would like to adopt my kids but im not into that yet really after they dad i been with for 6years though i found the one and all but i lost that love blindness and seen all the red flags so i moved on before my one year old was born bc he wasn’t worried about him until he found out i was close to my due date im jobless currently living at my grandmothers house with her i am a stay at home mom i have a three year old that goes to school still have a one year old don’t have financial help from the father or really any other family members my grandmother helps when she cans and i weigh 312lbs don’t know where to start on working out i suffer from depression and anxiety and ADHD im also a Introvert but would love to try to get out there more but at the same time barely have time to i take care of my grandmother and my kids i really want a life but i need a car to get to anywhere i need or anything for the kids but i haven’t took my daughter anywhere for a full 2 years no park or anything bc my grandmother needs to know where im going to reason y and all then she makes something up to keep us from going i stay tired and im barley seeing anyone else in my family and not gonna lie im to depressed to even do the bare minimum but i do try to get stuff done that my kids need but stuff for me i haven’t done since 2021…..

PLEASE HELP!!!!

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How do you manage sexy time?

Hey there, I have a pretty embarassing question: how do you manage to have sex? 😅
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Sleep

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Sorry for the LONGGGGG post!

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