Mums, how do you keep your toddlers (around 21β22 months) happy and entertained in the buggy while shopping or running errands without screens? Iβm really struggling to get anything done lately! π Any tips or tricks that actually work?
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I just take snacks and drink for him, heβs happy to look around and point at items he knows like the vegetables etc, so we play I spy.

Iβve given up on food shopping when Iβm solo and doing online food shop and as for errands β¦. Might as well wait till we can tag team at the weekend π absolutely adoring this age but itβs carnage outside the house haha

While I pick things up I will give him the odd thing to look at and play with as long as I know he's not going to open it/destroy it π when he gets bored I give him something else!

She walks everywhere, add a 3 year old.. itβs chaos when we leave the house π we just take twice as long everywhere we go π

Basically just snacks itβs the only thing that will keep her quiet
Sometimes hold things I pick up while shopping and speed round the shop and get it done as fast as possible

If I want her in the trolley : snacks. If I don't mind her walking around I have a talk beforehand: you listen and stay close to me or you're going back in the trolley. And I give her all the items that are not fragile and she throws them in. If she doesn't listen she goes in (and screams but idc).
Today was my birthday and my boyfriend/father of my children acted like he forgot about it all day. He had me feeling very upset and hurt all day. He waited until I put the kids to bed to give me flowers, a card, money, cake, and some of my favorite candies. I can't tell if he remembered last minute or if he thought this would be funny. Either way I'm bothered that he made me cry on my birthday. Instead of arguing I just told him thank you, gave him a hug, and went to bed. Just trying to process if I'm overreacting??
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Moms!!! Idk what to do. My partner swears I need more social time ( & I do ) but when I take it, itβs an argument or I can only have a hr away like is this normal being a mom??? Should I just expect no time to myself ever again???

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Hey π my husband(32) and I(30) have been married for nine years with 2 kids. He is either out of town working or working from about 7am to 5pm on the days he is home. I work at a school so we get home around 330pm.
I feel like little things have afded up over the years and i am just done since nothing has changed. I have been asking my husband for years to help me around the house without asking. He does the dishes and thats about it for the most part. He is consistently making jokes and trying to play around and tickle me as if I am a sibling and I absolutely hate it. He will come up to me and hug me and try to be affectionate during the times I am occupied such as cleaning or cooking. For the past couple years about once a month after letting everything bottle up I let it out and get mad. He will tell me he is trying and he will work on it and he does that for about a week before going back to his normal self which consists of him going to work, coming home and sitting on his phone while eating dinner, taking a 45 minute shower and then scrolling on his phone or playing the xbox. It was not always like this but for the past 4 or 5 years it's been like this and I always told myself that it was okay because I was a stay at home mom but now that I am working, nothing will get done if I dont do it. I dont know what to do but I feel like I have been distant and he is noticing and now trying to be helpful and affectionate in the way I wanted years ago. I'm so confused and frustrated.
Any advice would be helpful.
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i am a sahm that recently picked up a part time retail job to feel productive outside of my home. i work evenings after my husband is off and by the time i get home my girls (1&4) are sleep. this week i worked mon-wed evenings and i asked him today if they were bathed. he proceeds to tell me no he hasnβt bathed them all week because i didnβt ask him to. since when does your partner have to tell you to provide basic hygiene to your kids? he has before when i have worked so why is it a problem now? this is just so frustrating. i am truly so sick as a partner to him lately because of his incompetency with the most simple things. i have them all day and first thing i brush their teeth, make sure the baby has a clean diaper during the day. nobody would ever have to tell me to keep MY children sanitary. what would you do?
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I need some advice because I want to know if Iβm being unreasonable or if this situation really is unfair.
There are 3 adults including me and 2 kids in our household. During the week, weekends 5 adults. One child is 5 years old and my bf son, and the other is my 5-month-old daughter. One of the other adults works night shifts 5 days a week.
My boyfriend expects me to wash the dishes, cook after 5 ppl and two kids, clean the house, help his 5-year-old son with homework, and take care of our baby because he says I have free time and 3/adults work.
His reasoning is that Iβm home during the day, so these responsibilities should fall on me. But taking care of a baby is already a full-time responsibility, especially when sheβs still so young and needs constant attention.
I donβt mind contributing to the household, but I donβt think being home automatically means I should be responsible for everything. I also feel like helping with his sonβs homework and taking care of the household have become my responsibilities by default. His son is very rude to me and that delays homework time.
Am I wrong for feeling like this is unfair? How do other couples divide household responsibilities when one parent stays home with a baby? I genuinely want advice because Iβm trying to figure out whatβs reasonable and how to approach this situation.
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Mums, how do you keep your toddlers (around 21β22 months) happy and entertained in the buggy while shopping or running errands without screens? Iβm really struggling to get anything done lately! π Any tips or tricks that actually work?

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