MIL Bonding Time
MIL wants more one on one time with our 6 month old. Let her watch him while I worked from home and she brought over a latex balloon for him to play with (fought me on that when I asked her to not let him play with it), found her belt in the playpen and popsicle stick contraption with a dumdum lollipop attached on our kitchen counter.
Do I trust her to watch him unsupervised? š¤
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Trust your instincts. If this was done Iād go low contact. She wants to push boundaries and parent your baby her way. Protect your peace and protect your baby from her.
Hell no š£š£ trust your gut
Nah. I'm not fighting with anyone about what I'm showing my kid to pay with or not. If I said no then it's no and if you're trying to change my mind about it then go get bent because the fuck....nopppppe.
Absolutely not! When will these MILs realise that no means no and this baby is NOT their baby! Letting a baby play with a latex balloon is just plain irresponsible
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MIL wants more one on one time with our 6 month old. Let her watch him while I worked from home and she brought over a latex balloon for him to play with (fought me on that when I asked her to not let him play with it), found her belt in the playpen and popsicle stick contraption with a dumdum lollipop attached on our kitchen counter.
Do I trust her to watch him unsupervised? š¤
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