Bad parent 🤷‍♀️

Yup. That sucks. This is once a year.

I agree ☝️
It’s once a year. You could have let her go and said she can have the sweets tomorrow.
This is something she won’t forget

I would have made it very clear that she has to eat her dinner then you can go trick or treating. Just say that you have all night and she can either eat or not go trick or treating. I do think it’s a bit extreme. I would’ve maybe take her to one house that’s closest to yours, then after having gotten her first candy, you could say “if you want to go to more houses then we need to go back and have you finish your dinner”. Persuasion is a skill, and you should be able to work around it.
She’s probably very sad now, I would go and try to reason with her as to why she was not allowed to go, then I would maybe offer to take her to get candy together tomorrow but she needs to eat her dinner next time etc. She might not have been very hungry then and would eat a little later. You don’t always get hungry at the same time everyday. I sure don’t eat exactly at 5pm either, so I never expect my kids to.

O man 😕 kids shouldn’t be punished for not eating.

This type of reactionary parenting will not create healthy relationships with food ever

I mean so what if she doesn’t want to eat her dinner!? she’s probably excited about trick or treating that’s why
you don’t have to be strict always. just remember she’s the little one not you. she just needs more patience and understanding that’s it.

That was kind of over doing it cause it’s not a fair trade and you’re not rewarding her with candy it’s just a tradition. U could have held the candy. It’s also not like she doing anything out of the regular for her age. My daughter did not eat dinner and I’m taking her trick or treating. She’ll be hungry enough for the next meal is all I know ! Lol

No, that is just too strict.. What if she wasn’t hungry or did not like the food? That is not something I would ever do…

Is this rage bait…

Everyone has there own way of parenting definitely. Food can always be put away to be eaten later and Halloween is only once a year sometimes it’s cool to be a kid with them and when an adult as needed. No shade, Just saying…

In that situation, I'd just say that the kid can't have any candy until dinner is eaten, and bring the dinner food (or a different handheld option) along with in case they chose to eat the food while trick-or-treating.

So we have a 'bigger bag' and go trick or treating then put treats away until bigger. The experience is worth so much to them.

Ide be getting her back up and taking her u get 8 Hallowe’ens with them first 2years arnt proper and by 10 there not bothered food shouldn’t be used as a punishment it creates bad eating habits when there older she will always remember it to u probably won’t but she will 100%

So she didn’t want to eat her dinner because she knew she would have been getting sweet. I tried everything possible to reason with her and she was just taking no notice. We have been struggling for a long time to get her to eat her dinners and recently started making progress so do I just throw that all away for 1 day 🤷‍♀️. She’s already forgotten about it btw

If my son doesn’t end up eating real substantial food before we go out for trick or treating tonight, guess what? I’ll be packing a lunch box full of the food he was offered at home, and carrying it with us, so that when he’s hungry from walking around he’ll have the opportunity to eat real food again before he eats any of the treats he collects.

Because I’m an adult who wouldn’t be outsmarted or out negotiated by a 4 year old child 🤣

I personally wouldn’t have stopped her especially because she was so excited I think that is a bit unfair

I mean they can still go and enjoy trick or treating and not eat the sweets right then and there. My daughter and her friends were having a Halloween tea after trick or treating so she wasn’t allowed to eat any sweets until later. You can hold boundaries without scrapping a once a year event, I would have said no sweets tonight if you don’t eat some dinner, but I would still of took them out.

It’s a once in a year event. I wouldn’t stop my child from going to enjoy trick or treating. I’d likely take the candy off them when they’re back or just let them be. Back to reset tomorrow

Yeah this is how you create bad relationships with food. Instead of stopping her from trick or treating why not just limit her candy intake after? It doesn't have to be one or the other. She's 4, of course she wants candy instead of dinner. Take some food to go- if she's hungry while trick or treating she gets actual food- be smarter than your 4 year old. You don't have to take away a once a year event just to prove that you're in charge.