Halloween
Its my baby's first halloween and I feel sooooo guilty, I haven't dressed him up no trick or treating, nothing. I just feel like there is no point as he isn't even 1 yet, but now he is asleep in bed, I feel as though I ahould have taken at least a photo of him in some type of costume. All I can think is what if he asks me in the future what we done and honestly, we done fuck all for it. He was in bed by 6, no sweet treats, no decorations, nothing. Am I bad for doing this to him? I really just don't see the point as he cant even say anything other then mama and dada. How do I get past this guilt
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Being a parent means constant guilt about something in my opinion! But this is not worthy of any of your precious energy. There will be many many years where you will do all of those things. This year bed and an opportunity for you to relax is exactly as it should be x
I didn't take my 9 month old his sleep has been all over the place since the clocks changed. He went to sleep at 5.15, and he cant eat the sweets so whats the point.
My boys are 14 months old and we haven’t either. Next year we will trick or treat but like above said they can’t eat the sweets and went to bed at 7
Honestly... This and buying Christmas gifts for them... He will not remember it! And he will not care about things they were not aware of. He will not ask about what you did with him as a baby. I am also not doing anything with him as there is no point. I am already stressed by his horrible sleep regression. Halloween costume is the least of my problems.
Just enjoy your time with him as he is rn and stop looking for things to stress over for nothing, 🤣
If it makes you feel any better ive done the same. No decortions, no trick or treating and bed by 7pm. I dont feel guilty at all.
Honestly girls, your messages have helped me so much, thank you 🥰🥰
This is the effect of social media. Majority of people aren’t doing anything with their babies for Halloween and the ones who are, are only doing it so they have something to post online. Your baby doesn’t care and won’t care in the future what they did for Halloween as a baby. We went for a walk and then let her look at the outfits of trick or treaters when they came to the door
I haven’t dressed my daughter up and she’s 10 weeks. I just put a Halloween outfit on (not costume) I was going to put a pumpkin baby grow on her for bed but it’s a faff to put on so I’ll do it tomorrow and take a picture. No one will know except people who read this😂. Why don’t you nip out tomorrow, grab a baby grow (pumpkin one or whatever you see) and take a picture and maybe watch some Halloween films! I know you feel guilty for it but don’t honestly! You’ll still have the memories of doing it regardless xx
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So my 4yr old didn’t want to eat her dinner so I stopped her from going trick or treating. Now her dad’s pissed at me because she was so excited about going. I’m sorry but I’m not rewarding her with sweets when she’s refusing to eat her dinner. Then my mum said you could have still taken her but taken the sweet off her until she eats her dinner. No thanks I’m not dealing with tantrums after tantrums.
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Halloween
Its my baby's first halloween and I feel sooooo guilty, I haven't dressed him up no trick or treating, nothing. I just feel like there is no point as he isn't even 1 yet, but now he is asleep in bed, I feel as though I ahould have taken at least a photo of him in some type of costume. All I can think is what if he asks me in the future what we done and honestly, we done fuck all for it. He was in bed by 6, no sweet treats, no decorations, nothing. Am I bad for doing this to him? I really just don't see the point as he cant even say anything other then mama and dada. How do I get past this guilt
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