Apparently if i don’t have sex with my husband i don’t love him

My husband has sent me many many many videos every day explaining why women should have sex with there husband how it’s the only way they know we love them but what about all the shit I do every day for him that should count for showing my love like how i make him a fresh meal when he gets home from work how i make him so tea when he’s sick to feel better how i make sure our son is always with me and taken care of so he doesn’t have to worry and can come home and rest how I go out of my way every day to see him on lunch so we can spend time together how i plan all the dates we have every been on and pay for all of them how I buy him anything he wants because I love him how I worked every single day when I was pregnant and even went into labor at work finished my shift drove myself how and then went to the hospital to have the baby ( he was not working at this point). Then went back to work when I was cleared to do so work all the way until he left for basic training (military) quit my job to take care of our son (what he wanted me to do) and yet I don’t love him because I won’t have sex with him weird. Not needing advice or anything just needed how I felt off my chest because
honestly I’m extremely hurt by him.

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My husband is the same way he thinks if I'm not in the mood for sex or anything that I don't love him that's basically how my husband is and everything that I do around the house and for the kids and stuff like that you know that should be stuff that should be appreciated and all my husband worries about the majority of time is freaking sex like when we cuddle and stuff like that it always freaking leads to freaking sex it's like life is not always about freaking sex I'm so glad that I'm not alone in this conversation I always thought I was the only one that dealt with this issue

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If you have anyone else to stay with leave immediately, if you don’t and are able to get a job save up and leave as fast as you can. This is a red flag, the least worrisome option is that he may cheat on you but the most worrisome is that he’ll end up hurting you or your son. Please be safe

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I'm not saying he's right or wrong, but I do think physical intimacy is a big part of how some men feel loved and wanted. My partner and I both served in the Army, and we've seen firsthand how common infidelity can be within the military. Between deployments, field training, and time away from spouses, unfortunately, opportunities to make bad decisions are there. That's never an excuse to cheat, but I do think it's important to understand each other's love languages. If intimacy is how he feels connected and loved, making an effort to show him that affection and meet each other's needs can go a long way. Marriage takes effort from both sides.

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That's the way husband's show their love to you and it's also how the connection in your marriage is kept strong... Plus it's fun and are relieving... Not sure why people keep complaining about sex with their hubby...😅

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I would say have a conversation with him and explain how you feel. I think intimacy is a crucial part of a healthy relationship, just like communication, trust or effort. I would find a middle ground or a compromise so either of you don’t feel pressured or neglected

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Man- contributes nothing but money to home life, barely acknowledges the effort partner puts in, doesn’t respect her, doesn’t appreciate her, does nothing/bare minimum with kids. Also man “awww poor me why doesn’t she want my lazy dick 😭😭😭 you don’t love me”

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My husband has sent me many many many videos every day explaining why women should have sex with there husband how it’s the only way they know we love them but what about all the shit I do every day for him that should count for showing my love like how i make him a fresh meal when he gets home from work how i make him so tea when he’s sick to feel better how i make sure our son is always with me and taken care of so he doesn’t have to worry and can come home and rest how I go out of my way every day to see him on lunch so we can spend time together how i plan all the dates we have every been on and pay for all of them how I buy him anything he wants because I love him how I worked every single day when I was pregnant and even went into labor at work finished my shift drove myself how and then went to the hospital to have the baby ( he was not working at this point). Then went back to work when I was cleared to do so work all the way until he left for basic training (military) quit my job to take care of our son (what he wanted me to do) and yet I don’t love him because I won’t have sex with him weird. Not needing advice or anything just needed how I felt off my chest because
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