Alone

I'm currently 11 weeks postpartum and I am mentally struggling a lot. I have a partner to support me but he has friends who have just had a child also so he can relate to them whereas all my friends don't have any children. I'm 20 years old and feel like I don't have many friends

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I was the first of my friends at the time to have a child too, I was 22 with my first. It does feel quite lonely but I promise it gets better.
If you have the willingness to try, maybe trial some baby classes or baby sensory, if there’s any going near you. Just being around other parents with children makes it feel a lot less lonely some days

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Big hugs lovely x
Cerys is right with the suggestion of the baby walks and other groups, they can be a great way to meet new people in the same position - if it's not too far/if you drive we do a walk every Tuesday around west park in Wolverhampton which has a few new moms

This app can be difficult to but know it can work as well too make friends! Just try and arrange something xx

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Hi - sorry to hear things are hard right now. Have you joined any baby groups? I made friends when i did that and could connect with people with babies the same age. If you want someone to go with you, reach out and I am happy to go with you or recommend some of the ones I went to.

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