Struggling with partner earning less

You are lol it’s what happens to women who work most of the time because it’s not in our nature to do everything while they can just relax they see we put ourselves through it so they just do the same they accept what you allow I learned that from my ex it’s the system we live in once you stop accepting it things will change until then no

I don’t exactly agree just because your ex did that doesn’t mean all men do that. My fiancé doesn’t even want me to get a job because we have three kids and taking care of three kids is already stressful enough. He would rather him do two different jobs to make money so I can focus on our children So not all men are the same I feel like if you sit him down and just explain that while he is comfortable just doing the stuff he’s doing that in the long run it would be better for you guys understand no one wants to live pay check to pay check but sometimes for some men they don’t wanna actually acknowledge that their family is struggling because it can make them feel like they’re not doing enough or that they are failing to provide for their family sometimes it’s not that they don’t care or don’t see the situation but it’s hard for them to accept that what they’re currently bringing to the table isn’t enough that’s why communication is important

I understand what you’re trying to say, and I agree that having boundaries and knowing your worth is important. But I don’t agree that we attract everything that happens to us or that someone’s actions are a reflection of what we allow. You can communicate your boundaries, love someone, support them, and treat them right, and they can still choose to treat you poorly. That doesn’t mean you attracted that behavior or that it’s your fault. I also think we need to be careful about generalizing men based on negative experiences. There are genuinely good men who respect their partners and understand what being in a partnership means. Not every relationship follows the same pattern, and not every man’s behavior is the same.

For example:
You can be a loving, supportive partner and still end up with someone who takes advantage of you.
You can communicate your needs and boundaries, and someone can still choose to disregard them.
You can have the highest standards for yourself and still experience an unhealthy relationship.
That doesn't mean you attracted those experiences or allowed them to happen.