Daycare question

Question mainly for mums with daycare/nursery aged kids. If your nursery uses an App to share information with you, is it standard and consistent or do you have days where chunks of information are missing for example, no meals, nappies or nap time. Just the arrival time on a particular day or only meals on another, or just start time and breakfast on a different day? Also, would you be fine receiving information in this way for various reasons such as occasional busy periods but without being updated on the changes or would you expect it to remain consistent?

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I cnt imagine having to be around so many kids and still update an app, so I let it go, if I really want to know, I’ll ask at pickups, sometimes if I know they are doing something fun or different, I ask if they have time to please take additional pics. But if they don’t it’s not a big deal

If they have an app and they tell me that that's how they keep the parents informed on what they are doing to their child I would need them to make sure it works or find another way to contact me and let me know my kid is taking care of.

I’ve noticed that they have a ton of other kids to manage also, then the older the kids get they go to newer rooms which means less updates. Cause when the kids get to elementary school there’s no updates in kindergarten, so I just assume they’re (daycare) preparing when it’s time

We have a physical book that comes home in his bag for things like toileting/ nappies, meals and sleep. Also has a brief description of their day and activity they enjoyed.

We also get daily photos of what they’ve been up to. Sometimes it’s of the whole group at say circle time or when they have music classes and sometimes it’s of my son specifically and something he’s done or achieved.

I personally wouldn’t leave my son somewhere that can’t communicate that information to me - for example, the times he slept make a huge difference to bedtime. What he’s eaten throughout the day makes a difference to what I offer for dinner when he’s come home etc x

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