Am I being reasonable?

Sounds like you need to coordinate a good day off for yourself or at least times when you can get out with your friends as well

I’m going through similar things except my husband goes and plays softball every weekend . Not only am I home with baby all day and night and haven’t had any free me time he goes on the weekends after I’ve asked him to please do a half night shift with me on weekends so I can just get some rest, moral of the story it still hasn’t happened I’m not asking much . I am very resentful it’s hard not to be but to exhausted to start a fight

Use that as a negotiation point for your own “me time”. Truth is both of you need that time to remind yourselves that you are more than your role as a parent or partner. And once that me time is in place for BOTH of you then next step is to figure out how to swing some time as a couple without the kids. For me we don’t have help and can’t afford babysitters so our couple time is after the kids go to bed, even if it means sacrificing some sleep. But if you can afford a babysitter or have someone that can watch your kids maybe once a month that’s a great thing!

Showing him that you care about his needs will prevent him being resentful and stressed, and also models how you want to be cared for, and no harm in reminding him that you need the same consideration - it’s good communication! Since he came to you asking for that I say it’s a prime opportunity to have your needs seen to as well and strengthen your marriage.

Girrrrrrllll I feel you. My husband and I have had manyyyyy conversations about this, often not pleasant convos because of this. We definitely haven’t fixed it but it’s better than it was so all I can say is tell him how you feel, talk and talk and talk because resentment grows with lack of communication and one day you’ll explode and he won’t have a clue why or where it came from. Just explain how when he gets a free evening, you would also like him to use that time to ask what YOU want once in a while and whether he can look after baby so YOU can spend some quality time on yourself. It’s not selfish it’s fair but I to, have a hard time doing this because I feel controlling and resentful.

Communication is and will always be key. 🔑