God mother drama

She is in wedding mode and she is probably all stressed with wedding plans. And since it's gonna be a destination wedding she has double planning to make sure the license and everything gets approved. She is being selfish but right now in her life she has a right to be. Sure she traveled for you but she can't be checking up on you and the child when she is packing and making sure her wedding goes off without a hitch.
I say let her have her wedding. Do what you need to do. Tell her you are sorry and didn't think this through week enough with how young your kid is and how bad pay pain has hit you so you're not gonna be traveling at this time. Tell her you hope she has a wonderful time but you won't be able to do it because you have to focus on you and then she has to focus on her. Doesn't mean your friendship is over just as long as she understands that... 🤷🏻‍♀️ If you can't make it you can't make it and if she doesn't understand that then you have to say I'm sorry.

I honestly think she probably expected her best friend and god son to show up to one of the biggest days of her life! I definitely think you should make more of an effort to go (if medically viable), especially if she offered to help financially. If I were in her position I’d probably be quite upset but I can also sympathise with your situation and understand not wanting to travel with Bub. Hope it all works out!

She was there for you multiple times. Why can’t you just be there for her for her big day?

How old is your baby? Honestly unless he’s a newborn I think you should make an effort to go since she’s your best friend and she even offered to help financially.

Personally my husband and I were asked to be godparents for our friends wedding in another country and I’m supposed to give birth less than 4 weeks before their wedding. I am a little anxious about it as there isn’t enough time even to get baby’s vaccinations but I think everything will be fine, baby will be glued to me the whole journey and at the wedding people won’t be allowed to touch him. It’s not our first baby and we travelled a lot with our first starting from 9 weeks. So unless there will be some sort of medical situation around the birth that would prevent us from travelling we will do everything we can to go

No the friendship is not over, remember she has her priorities right now that she's focused on.
If she is really important to you then you would do anything to make it happen for you to travel.
And it sux your partner won't support you by coming with you as a family