Should it be this hard!?

I am struggling... i don't remember it being this difficult with my first born a few years ago, why is it so hard this time around?

I love my baby, but I miss my old life so much. I miss being able to give my first born any attention whatsoever, I miss being able yo leave the house quickly, I miss feeling normal...

I just needed to vent... i know its hard and postpartum is not easy, but this is making me question my sanity.

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I'm struggling too, my LO is quite highly strung and struggles to settle and sleep for long stretches. We have lots of crying in the witching hour too. It's tough 😪

These September babies!! My little boys the same and my partner works 12 hour shifts and with a 2 year old it’s a LOT, sometimes for your own sanity it’s ok to leave him in a safe place take 5-10 mins and then come back when you feel regulated , have you tried a bouncer/swing? Maybe get out during the day in the pushchair if you haven’t already tried it , sending you lots of love 🫶🏼

How old is your little one? Mines just turned 9 weeks and slowly improving now although he still wants to be held to to sleep so we have to contact nap during the day so hopefully it gets better for you, your only human and one person, give yourself grace 🫶🏼 I found a baby carrier when going for walks helped so I could play abit more with my toddler rather than pushing the baby and he was more comfortable being on me

Sending hugs xx

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Christmas

First time mum here, my little girl is going to be 4 month old for Christmas, just after some suggestions for some presents for her, any toys etc you found your babies used around this age ? Xxx

Sleep

10 weeks this week and it feels like we’ve went from sleeping throughout the night to now waking up every 2-4 hours throughout the night… I thought they were supposed to give longer stretches at this age but instead it feels like we’re getting shorter ones…. Any advice it words of encouragement?😩

Unpopular opinion:

Ladies who have sex a few days/weeks after giving birth are only doing it for their men/to keep them happy/doing it in fear of them cheating & not because they are ACTUALLY ready or horny AND I'm 99.9% sure they don't fucking enjoy the experience either as their bodies are STILL recovering!!!

Love yourselves more ladies & stop letting your men guilt trip you into having sex & using your bodies as sex toys!

When did you feel comfortable taking baby out for walks and coffee ?

I’ve only been out once around day 10 with Baby for a check up at the clinic which was fine but we haven’t done anything else yet and coming up for 3 weeks? Anyone got any advice on when and how to start taking Babies out? Especially living in rainy winter weather

Everyone obsessed with baby

Why is everyone obsessed with taking my baby from me. People taking him and holding him is fine, but the whole visit they will have him and wont give him back to me, i feel they think its a joke and laugh saying i need to share with family but it gives me huge anxiety.

People suggesting i leave him with them to go “rest”, i don’t want to. I want my baby with me he is only 5 weeks old! Everyone has had their time and this is my time.

God mother drama

I made my best friend of 13 years the godmother to my son (she lives in GA and I live in PA. She attended both baby showers in two different states. She is getting married in Mexico next year. At the time I told her it wouldn’t be a problem for me to attend. Now that my son is here and the wedding will happen before he is even 1 I can’t imagine leaving him, not to mention how expensive the trip will be for just two/three days. She offered to help financially, she said my son can attend, but I’m not comfortable traveling outside of the country with him and my husband does not want to go or want me to go alone for safety reasons. After explaining this to her she seemed understanding. I also mentioned how I’m struggling postpartum with PPD AND PPA. She told
Me to just focus on my mental health and my baby and to let her know for sure by a later date if I could attend or not closer to the wedding. After this conversation she began to ice me out and not really continue conversations. She hasn’t asked about her godson she was so excited about or checked on me after opening up about my mental health. I confronted her about my feelings and it didn’t go well. To sum it up she feels upset and says she knows I have a village and chose to take space from me. She says I want her to get on a plane for the third time in 6 months when I can’t get on a plane for the only thing she asked me to attend. Which I didn’t not ask her to attend both showers and it was her idea to visit once he was born. We both have been there for one another through it all and it hurts to know she isn’t there for me at such a difficult time in my life and has not even asked about her godson. I think our friendship is over. Anyone have any thoughts?