Hey mamas,
Day 5 pp and me and my husband are trying to start on a nightly schedule as until now babygirl has been waking up almost every hour from midnight till like 6am. ((He’s also trying to already have her on a sleep schedule although she’s only 5 days old but anyways)) how did you guys do it? And do you have any tips and tricks for when it’s time to start her on a sleep routine?
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Hey girl, not to be a downer but your baby isn't likely to stick to a schedule this early on. Its going to take a couple months for things to normalize before getting into a schedule. Try having a sleep routine before instead, like warm bath, story, feeding and dark room. And make sure she sees sunlight during the day. At this young she has no idea between day and night and that isn't going to change for a bit. Hubby is going to need to get on board with the rough nights. But it does get better I promise! You got this!

Also if you need to track sleep the huckleberry app is super helpful!

I pulled up Pinterest they have some amazing ones to try until you find the right one

I’m assuming you’re talking about a schedule for yourselves? I.e. you are “on shift” from 9pm-midnight for example?
It’s hard to agree a routine in the beginning when you’re still finding your feet, but after a few weeks we did: 9pm i’d feed and go to sleep and my husband looked after her until her next feed (around 11ish usually) then I’d go back to sleep and he would settle her and be “on cover” until her next feed at 1am. I’d then cover from when she woke up until around 5am. Then he’d wake up with her and I’d get a bit more sleep.
In terms of babies schedule, I wouldn’t even think about it until around 6 months. You can’t put a newborn on a schedule and even then once you do, it’ll probably change monthly. Every time we’ve got a routine down, her naps change a week later🤣 and I imagine this will continue to be the case until she’s 12 months+

My LO is 4 months and sometimes her naps are 2 hrs and other times they’re 43 minutes

My daughter is currently 11 weeks old and we only recently hit the point at which she is mostly sleeping through the night. She feeds on demand 24/7, but after taking her outside to the grocery store and on walks during the day, she's now sleeping for a good 6 hour stretch at night, feeding once, and then going back to sleep for another 4-6 hours before her first wake window in the morning. She doesn't exactly have a set bedtime yet because she's still a bit too young for that. Still, I cannot express the relief I felt the first time she gave us that long stretch of uninterrupted sleep. I cried happy tears.
Don't worry mama, it will eventually fall into place. Especially once your LO is able to eat more at a time...I've found mine sleeps longer if her belly needs a good while to process that last feeding.

My husband would take his turn from 8pm to 2/3 am when he usually goes to sleep and then I would take over from then. Honestly getting those couple hours unbothered was everything
Hi everyone
My baby girl is 4 weeks old today. She is BF and bottles of pumped milk. She has about 90ml per feed every 3ish hours.
She has started being a bit sick during or after feeds (can be up to an hour or more after feeds). I pace feed, wind and burp during the feed, keep her upright for 30 mins after etc.
When she lies flat on her back (and mainly at night), she constantly clears her throat which is quite wet sounding, sounds congested in her nose, grunts, groans and strains.
Could it be a bit of reflux? Heartburn? Something else? Normal baby behaviour haha?
She is otherwise a very chilled and happy baby, and the sick/spit up doesn’t seem to necessarily bother her.
Thanks!
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Any else’s hit that 4 month sleep regression? My little one can be flat out but the second I put him down… ping! Eyes wide open 🫠🫠🤣🤣

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Hi guys. Long story short, my mother in law has always been extremely off with me. Initially I thought it was a personality trait and cannot expect everyone to be bubbly as you. But she did many things that were just awful such as, when I was pregnant vomiting in her home she completely ignored me. I cooked for her and her sons and she went and ate in her room & didnt thank me. When we had our wedding at my wedding I went up to dance next to her and she walked off (so much more that I could list). Anyway, she lives in our home country so as soon as I came back to London I forgot about her. I had my baby and my husband convinced me into bringing her over for a month to ‘help me’ as my own mum has a physical disability so can’t help me much. First two weeks she I was cooking, cleaning & looking after my baby. She even WOKE ME UP FROM A NAP to change my baby’s clothes. My husband spoke to her and she improved but would still do weird things and like completely blank me, or make comments to make me look like a bad mother. My husband started to be horrible so one night I snapped and called her a b*** to him. He called a family meeting the next day with her and my parents and exposed me to them all. She even said to my parents ‘why should he wake up to give baby a bottle he works hes tired’ ‘why should he change nappies’ ‘if she’s incapeable of looking after her baby blah blah’. I have practically been a married single mum since baby has been born he is now 3 months old. I can’t believe my husband exposed me and told his mother I called her out of name. This marriage is completely failing, i have a 3 month old, I don’t know if I can ever look at him the same or be a part of their family after everything I have been through. I know I shouldn’t of called her out of her name but I was at my width ends I felt bullied and abused and like she was doing everything to make me look like a shit mum… WHY WOULD HE TELL HER?
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Any other FTMs who are just SO done with all the information out there? I've got a 6 month old and I feel like I've done nothing but stress and try to problem solve everything when it comes to my baby. There was once a time when I didn't even know what false starts, wake windows or sleep pressure were and now I feel like the constant overload of information from "experts", especially on social media, is making me lose touch with my own instincts. Obvs it can be helpful when you're thinking, "wtf is happening right now?" but today I've decided I'm going to switch off all the noise, try to be more present with my baby and just accept that there will be ups and downs. Whether that's sleep, weaning or days when she only wants to be held. She's literally only just arrived in this world and there's so much happening in her little body and mind. Not everything needs to be a problem to solve.
I've also decided I'm not going to force a strict routine, because I've never even managed to stick to one for myself, and frankly the thought of it stresses me out. She's a perfectly happy baby and while I might still be a bit sleep deprived at least I won't be stressed about every little thing on top of it!
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Hey mamas,
Day 5 pp and me and my husband are trying to start on a nightly schedule as until now babygirl has been waking up almost every hour from midnight till like 6am. ((He’s also trying to already have her on a sleep schedule although she’s only 5 days old but anyways)) how did you guys do it? And do you have any tips and tricks for when it’s time to start her on a sleep routine?

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Hi everyone,
My LO is six weeks, he’s been pretty hit and miss with going in his cot vs needing contact to sleep. Until about 4 ish weeks he was doing half and half, either sleeping well in the cot or Moses basket during the day but not at night, or vice versa. Last week or so I’m finding it hard to get him down at night. If and when it gets to 12-1am at night and he won’t settle, I’ll safely cosleep with him.
The last few days he won’t go in the cot at night at all, and hardly during the day. I know 6 weeks starts a period of extra fussiness. Last couple of days he was so fussy and upset. Today he’s been really calm but can’t be put down, can’t even be handed to someone else without waking, I’ve managed to get him to sleep and held him for ages but he woke up a few minutes after transferring to the cot.
Is anyone else finding this difficulty with getting baby into the cot, especially at night? I’d prefer not to cosleep, but I have a clingy toddler who doesn’t nap, so no chance of extra lie ins or naps during the day.

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