Help Me!

Hi, my daughter is about to turn 5 months old. And I am struggling with postpartum depression. I always feel sad and feel like crying. My mind never feels fresh, and I am not able to sleep for more than 4-5 hours because of the baby. I always stay sad. I forget to brush my teeth, I don't feel like changing my clothes, I don't get time to bathe, I am busy with the baby 24x7. I keep overthinking all the time. I have forgotten how it feels to feel normal.My husband stays out for 12+ hours for his job. When he comes home and sees me, he gets angry about how I am living. He thinks all of this is in my mind. But doing the same thing 24x7 is enough to drive anyone mad. I don't know how people enjoy motherhood, for me it is not easy. I love my daughter a lot, I can take care of her 24x7, but I need 7-8 hours of sleep which I am not getting, and because of that I feel like I am going mad. I don't know what I should do. I don't feel like doing anything. Can anyone suggest what I should do?

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Yes! Please go and see a healthcare provider and tell them everything you have written here!
Postpartum depression is REAL and it’s horrible. Please please please get some help.
Also your husband is not helping at all. He needs to be more supportive, but get yourself back on track first and then deal with him.
Have you got any family or friends nearby you can lean on for a little break every now and then?
Feel free to message me if you need to!!

This happened to me too! I started going out and letting my husband take care of the baby, and honestly, it made me feel like myself again. As moms, we sometimes need our own space to relax, recharge, and recover. At the end of the day, we need to prioritize our own physical and mental well-being too. I’d suggest going out more often, whether it’s shopping, meeting friends, or watching a movie. Even a little time for yourself can make a huge difference! ❤️ Dm if you want to discuss symptoms

Hey love - if you want to talk please reach out 🙏

Sorry your going through this. Is your husband off weekends? If so I would definitely spend some of that time to yourself, go out and do something for yourself or sleep. Try to get to bed earlier so you can get more sleep. Broken sleep is the worst, I also struggle with no sleep it can really affect you. When your husband comes home he needs to help too, it doesn't matter how long he's worked for he needs to take over with baby to help / support you.

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