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Can anyone tell me if I am being overly sensitive? I had my second baby six months ago and he isn’t the easiest baby. He doesn’t really sleep a lot and he is quite a big baby and drink a lot and I’m exclusively breastfeed. My family have seen how difficult he can be and they know my husband can sometimes work a lot, especially at different hours. In the six months I’ve had my baby not once have they come up to help me with both kids or if they go out and do something nice they never invite me but will invite my siblings. I don’t expect anyone to help raise my children but for example the day my baby was born the next day they went on holiday and they knew that was my due date and they booked it anyway.

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I think im having a break down 😢

The past 2 days i have felt like im going to have a full blow break down 😢

I have an 18 month old daughter who hasnt been sleeping properly the past 2 nights so ive barely slept.
All day long i feel like a bad mum as i constantly have to tell her no when shes climbing up the sofa to sit in the window or when shes throwing things at my cat or pushing her off.
The cat hasnt always been around my daughter as we had a dog and the cat would stay upstairs out the way but since we had to rehome the dog the cat is down more and she is very needy wanting me all the time but so does my daughter and im just feeling very overwhelmed

Im 20 weeks pregnant so im guessing its the hormones but I feel like im going crazy.
Im exhausted and cant keep up on housework and I struggle to take my daughter out as i dont drive and there isnt much around in the area to do.

I just want to hide in a dark room and cry

Starting to be ok with it

My husband has been ignoring me for 5 days. This isn't a new thing, but probably the longest its gone. Im usually stressed and trying to talk to make things better. But this time im just over it and honestly starting to enjoy the distance. Its making me think divorce is probably the best option- he may be even thinking the same. Im sad to think about things ending and really would hate for my matriage to end. but im also realizing how much I've been dealing with. How did yall cross the bridge and decide to finally leave?

I keep getting blamed.

Yesterday, I had virtual physical therapy at 6am. I told my husband don’t disturb me as I woke him up for work. In the middle of the appointment he put his hand in my face asking me to smell a hoodie . I said I’m in an appointment. He said”So”. I felt like that was disrespectful not only to me but the doctor as well. He didn’t need my help, he smoked in that hoodie so yes it stunk. I have a bunch of clean jackets for him to pick from, he didn’t have to disturb me.
My issue is that saying “So” makes me aware that he doesn’t care. I’ve been in pain for a year because of the delivery of my son. It took 3 months of test to get my physical therapy. And every appointment I have, I usually bring my kids because I can’t always find a babysitter. Maybe I didn’t say it right and started yelling, I want some privacy during my appointment. I don’t get privacy any other time of my day. I’m always doing for someone else.
After that argument, I locked myself in the bathroom to take a shower (which I usually don’t get a chance to do alone). The kids wasn’t sleep by the time I finished. He went to smoke for idk how long.
Fast forward to this morning he’s running late because he lost the car key, and blames me for being late. Let me add that he also blames me for not taking a shower last night. He was smoking in the car for at least 3/4hours with his friend yesterday while I was cooking and eating dinner. I’m just tired of be blamed. My love and sexual desire for him is dwindling.

14 Month Prefers Dad Sometimes :(

Don’t get me wrong I know my baby loves me and I do get cuddles and kisses but they aren’t often as he is very much a busy boy! But we get phases where he will say no to cuddling me but cuddle my husband and it breaks my heart and I can’t stop feeling sad about it. I know it’s normal but anyone going through this or have any insights? I then find myself fighting for his affection and I just don’t know if I’m a fun good mum sometimes

Getting husband to help more

Any tips on getting husband to help more around the house? I work 2 days and my husband works 3. I have our 3 y.o when he works and vice versa. But I spend the majority of the 3 days hes at work getting the house clean amd tidy but by the time ive finished my 2 shifts for the week its back to how it was. Im 8 months pregnant now and its getting too much for me to do 90% of everything just for it to be ignored when im at work. Ive tried to tell him before can he please tidy up especially before inviting his friend over for a beer which he does every friday afternoon while im at work. He responds really defensively and then for days he goes on about little things ive done that he missed. I tidy our daughters toys, vacuum, mop, make sure dinners ready for when he gets home and he has food for the next day, do washing, fold clothes and put them away, do the bathrooms and bins....he will load the dishwasher (sometimes), cook and hang washing out but thats it. Its so hard not to be resentful. Hes a hoarder too and just leaves paper, wrapping, crumbs etc everywhere. Help!

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