Getting husband to help more
Any tips on getting husband to help more around the house? I work 2 days and my husband works 3. I have our 3 y.o when he works and vice versa. But I spend the majority of the 3 days hes at work getting the house clean amd tidy but by the time ive finished my 2 shifts for the week its back to how it was. Im 8 months pregnant now and its getting too much for me to do 90% of everything just for it to be ignored when im at work. Ive tried to tell him before can he please tidy up especially before inviting his friend over for a beer which he does every friday afternoon while im at work. He responds really defensively and then for days he goes on about little things ive done that he missed. I tidy our daughters toys, vacuum, mop, make sure dinners ready for when he gets home and he has food for the next day, do washing, fold clothes and put them away, do the bathrooms and bins....he will load the dishwasher (sometimes), cook and hang washing out but thats it. Its so hard not to be resentful. Hes a hoarder too and just leaves paper, wrapping, crumbs etc everywhere. Help!
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So sorry about those challenges... Perhaps creating a "house chores timetable"... Would help sharing them between both of you
If he is truely a hoarder I don’t think he see it as mess hun. There isn’t much you can do to change that he has to make the change.
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Getting husband to help more
Any tips on getting husband to help more around the house? I work 2 days and my husband works 3. I have our 3 y.o when he works and vice versa. But I spend the majority of the 3 days hes at work getting the house clean amd tidy but by the time ive finished my 2 shifts for the week its back to how it was. Im 8 months pregnant now and its getting too much for me to do 90% of everything just for it to be ignored when im at work. Ive tried to tell him before can he please tidy up especially before inviting his friend over for a beer which he does every friday afternoon while im at work. He responds really defensively and then for days he goes on about little things ive done that he missed. I tidy our daughters toys, vacuum, mop, make sure dinners ready for when he gets home and he has food for the next day, do washing, fold clothes and put them away, do the bathrooms and bins....he will load the dishwasher (sometimes), cook and hang washing out but thats it. Its so hard not to be resentful. Hes a hoarder too and just leaves paper, wrapping, crumbs etc everywhere. Help!
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