14 Month Prefers Dad Sometimes :(

Don’t get me wrong I know my baby loves me and I do get cuddles and kisses but they aren’t often as he is very much a busy boy! But we get phases where he will say no to cuddling me but cuddle my husband and it breaks my heart and I can’t stop feeling sad about it. I know it’s normal but anyone going through this or have any insights? I then find myself fighting for his affection and I just don’t know if I’m a fun good mum sometimes

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Just need to Vent

So to start, I am a SAHM with a toddler and currently pregnant with my 2nd child. My husband and so just had a conversation and it ended in him feeling bad and crying… It wasn’t anything heated. I asked him who was doing the bath for the toddler. He says that we’re doing our regular schedule… I said “so i’m doing bath and bedtime? He replied “no, you do bath, I do bedtime”. So I could’ve been a bit easier on this part, but I got a little upset and told him “So I do the hard part and you do the easy part? Got it.” then went and told him that he literally works 24/7 (he loves the crap out of his job bc he doesn’t have to), and so I’m always doing bath and bedtime… So now that he’s home, i’m still doing basically 90% of the care for home and the baby… So I asked what’s going to happen when baby gets here? I’m doing everything too?… He started silently crying… I’m not trying to be a butthole but i’m genuinely tired. The house is disgusting, my son has had TOO MUCH screen time due to the fact i’ve literally been so exhausted and can barely keep my eyes open. I don’t eat, I rarely sleep, and i’m just tired… When he gets home from work, I try to keep our son away from him so he can rest. Sometimes he helps out after he gets up, sometimes he just gets on his phone and chills downstairs with us… Either way i’m so tired…

I think im having a break down 😢

The past 2 days i have felt like im going to have a full blow break down 😢

I have an 18 month old daughter who hasnt been sleeping properly the past 2 nights so ive barely slept.
All day long i feel like a bad mum as i constantly have to tell her no when shes climbing up the sofa to sit in the window or when shes throwing things at my cat or pushing her off.
The cat hasnt always been around my daughter as we had a dog and the cat would stay upstairs out the way but since we had to rehome the dog the cat is down more and she is very needy wanting me all the time but so does my daughter and im just feeling very overwhelmed

Im 20 weeks pregnant so im guessing its the hormones but I feel like im going crazy.
Im exhausted and cant keep up on housework and I struggle to take my daughter out as i dont drive and there isnt much around in the area to do.

I just want to hide in a dark room and cry

Starting to be ok with it

My husband has been ignoring me for 5 days. This isn't a new thing, but probably the longest its gone. Im usually stressed and trying to talk to make things better. But this time im just over it and honestly starting to enjoy the distance. Its making me think divorce is probably the best option- he may be even thinking the same. Im sad to think about things ending and really would hate for my matriage to end. but im also realizing how much I've been dealing with. How did yall cross the bridge and decide to finally leave?

Getting husband to help more

Any tips on getting husband to help more around the house? I work 2 days and my husband works 3. I have our 3 y.o when he works and vice versa. But I spend the majority of the 3 days hes at work getting the house clean amd tidy but by the time ive finished my 2 shifts for the week its back to how it was. Im 8 months pregnant now and its getting too much for me to do 90% of everything just for it to be ignored when im at work. Ive tried to tell him before can he please tidy up especially before inviting his friend over for a beer which he does every friday afternoon while im at work. He responds really defensively and then for days he goes on about little things ive done that he missed. I tidy our daughters toys, vacuum, mop, make sure dinners ready for when he gets home and he has food for the next day, do washing, fold clothes and put them away, do the bathrooms and bins....he will load the dishwasher (sometimes), cook and hang washing out but thats it. Its so hard not to be resentful. Hes a hoarder too and just leaves paper, wrapping, crumbs etc everywhere. Help!

14 Month Prefers Dad Sometimes :(

Finding a balance. Dropping hours ? Or dropping a day? Not like finances allow that! Advice please!

I'm fed up of the grind. My partner leaves for work mega early. I sort the washing, empty the dishwasher, make the beds before breakfast and school run. Then my 8 hours at work. Partner should do the school pick up but I sneak out and do it a few times per week (partly due to wanting to and partly to let partner go the the gym).

Then kids clubs 4 days of the week. It's a lot. I know people have it worse and I'm not complaining. I am looking to make change though.

I could drop some hours or a day. I've spoken to my partner about me paying less towards the house if I earned less. That being said a small part of me is thinking of it just being my pension and salary that's impacted to make family life work and not my partner's. I already took the hit financially when I was on maternity leave twice. I'm also saving for a house as we live in his house and id like to buy as a rental with my first time buyer perks.

I'm not sure what I'm after. I guess advice on whether you feel dropping 2 hours a day or 1 day a week would be better? Any lived experience of this?
If you read this far, thank you x

14 Month Prefers Dad Sometimes :(

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14 Month Prefers Dad Sometimes :(

Finding a balance. Dropping hours ? Or dropping a day? Not like finances allow that! Advice please!