I’m so lost with weaning, it just feels overwhelming and we haven’t even started it yet, I don’t know what to feed my baby, or how to feed her, the health visitors don’t suggest purreè anymore, but if my baby has only ever had milk, how will she know how to eat mashed or finger food without choking?
Has anyone else got anxiety about starting? Or had and have now experienced weaning?
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I feel the same. I feel way out my depth with it all! We started around a week ago and I think apart from 2 things shes tried shes gagged and vomited with everything else. Social media doesnt help seeing people giving their babies all this food to start their weaning journeys and Im wondering how?! I guess its all apart of the journey but its way harder than id anticipated it to be! 😂

The "how to wean your baby book" is really good! That's what I've been using as I was abit anxious too but it literally tells you what to make every day which is great! I've been giving baby purée's which I've gradually made thicker and chunkier as we've progressed through the week and finger food versions of the food. My little one loves feeding herself with the spoon which is really good for her too!

Following.. feel overwhelmed here too!!
Lg had some mashed banana yesterday for the first time and loved it. But my brain is in overdrive with it all 🤯😅

I completely get your concerns but please try not to worry, it can be fun 😅. This is my second child so I'm way more relaxed. I would download the solid starts app, I don't pay for any subscription but it's great for showing you how to prepare different foods at different ages and tells you the allergens and ones that are more likely to cause choking. I then got a weaning chart that I've put on the fridge that I just tick off after he's tried a food. I try to do things two ways e.g avocado mashed on a spoon and then a spear of it, same as banana for example. Just present it to them and see what they do. Also research the difference between choking and gagging as this will put your mind at rest. Remember first couple of weeks/ months they may eat very little and that's fine! You'll probably do more prep and cleaning up than they will do eating 😅 I'd start with veg and fruit until you get more confident 😊

It's the second time round for me, but my first was 10 years ago so I vaguely remember what worked back then 😄 We started a week ago with my little girl and I am just doing veg for now (as recommended in the book mentioned above, How to Wean your Baby). I am making quite thin purées for now, because I got a mini heart attack when baby gagged the first time on thicker food. I'm taking it slow and we'll see how it goes. So far, I can say she is NOT a fan of spinach 😂 Oh and the whole thing is super messy, I was trying to remove dried up avocado from her hair the other evening 🫣

my son was advised to start weaning from 4 months. we used those first couple of months to give him porridge in the morning and purees of one singular food. by 6 months he’s now doing mixed purées for dinner with finger foods to explore with and a new allergen introduced every week.
Milk is still their main source of nutrition I just see the foods as something to explore with. Easier said than done but don’t put too much pressure on yourself try and make it exciting and don’t worry about intake as food is something that should be fun! Good luck mamma🤍

Agree getting a copy of how to wean your baby and following it if you’re nervous!
The past 2 days i have felt like im going to have a full blow break down 😢
I have an 18 month old daughter who hasnt been sleeping properly the past 2 nights so ive barely slept.
All day long i feel like a bad mum as i constantly have to tell her no when shes climbing up the sofa to sit in the window or when shes throwing things at my cat or pushing her off.
The cat hasnt always been around my daughter as we had a dog and the cat would stay upstairs out the way but since we had to rehome the dog the cat is down more and she is very needy wanting me all the time but so does my daughter and im just feeling very overwhelmed
Im 20 weeks pregnant so im guessing its the hormones but I feel like im going crazy.
Im exhausted and cant keep up on housework and I struggle to take my daughter out as i dont drive and there isnt much around in the area to do.
I just want to hide in a dark room and cry
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Yesterday, I had virtual physical therapy at 6am. I told my husband don’t disturb me as I woke him up for work. In the middle of the appointment he put his hand in my face asking me to smell a hoodie . I said I’m in an appointment. He said”So”. I felt like that was disrespectful not only to me but the doctor as well. He didn’t need my help, he smoked in that hoodie so yes it stunk. I have a bunch of clean jackets for him to pick from, he didn’t have to disturb me.
My issue is that saying “So” makes me aware that he doesn’t care. I’ve been in pain for a year because of the delivery of my son. It took 3 months of test to get my physical therapy. And every appointment I have, I usually bring my kids because I can’t always find a babysitter. Maybe I didn’t say it right and started yelling, I want some privacy during my appointment. I don’t get privacy any other time of my day. I’m always doing for someone else.
After that argument, I locked myself in the bathroom to take a shower (which I usually don’t get a chance to do alone). The kids wasn’t sleep by the time I finished. He went to smoke for idk how long.
Fast forward to this morning he’s running late because he lost the car key, and blames me for being late. Let me add that he also blames me for not taking a shower last night. He was smoking in the car for at least 3/4hours with his friend yesterday while I was cooking and eating dinner. I’m just tired of be blamed. My love and sexual desire for him is dwindling.

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Don’t get me wrong I know my baby loves me and I do get cuddles and kisses but they aren’t often as he is very much a busy boy! But we get phases where he will say no to cuddling me but cuddle my husband and it breaks my heart and I can’t stop feeling sad about it. I know it’s normal but anyone going through this or have any insights? I then find myself fighting for his affection and I just don’t know if I’m a fun good mum sometimes
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Can anyone tell me if I am being overly sensitive? I had my second baby six months ago and he isn’t the easiest baby. He doesn’t really sleep a lot and he is quite a big baby and drink a lot and I’m exclusively breastfeed. My family have seen how difficult he can be and they know my husband can sometimes work a lot, especially at different hours. In the six months I’ve had my baby not once have they come up to help me with both kids or if they go out and do something nice they never invite me but will invite my siblings. I don’t expect anyone to help raise my children but for example the day my baby was born the next day they went on holiday and they knew that was my due date and they booked it anyway.
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I’m so lost with weaning, it just feels overwhelming and we haven’t even started it yet, I don’t know what to feed my baby, or how to feed her, the health visitors don’t suggest purreè anymore, but if my baby has only ever had milk, how will she know how to eat mashed or finger food without choking?
Has anyone else got anxiety about starting? Or had and have now experienced weaning?

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I'm fed up of the grind. My partner leaves for work mega early. I sort the washing, empty the dishwasher, make the beds before breakfast and school run. Then my 8 hours at work. Partner should do the school pick up but I sneak out and do it a few times per week (partly due to wanting to and partly to let partner go the the gym).
Then kids clubs 4 days of the week. It's a lot. I know people have it worse and I'm not complaining. I am looking to make change though.
I could drop some hours or a day. I've spoken to my partner about me paying less towards the house if I earned less. That being said a small part of me is thinking of it just being my pension and salary that's impacted to make family life work and not my partner's. I already took the hit financially when I was on maternity leave twice. I'm also saving for a house as we live in his house and id like to buy as a rental with my first time buyer perks.
I'm not sure what I'm after. I guess advice on whether you feel dropping 2 hours a day or 1 day a week would be better? Any lived experience of this?
If you read this far, thank you x
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