How many meals a day are we all doing?
I went for our health visitor weigh in a few days ago, and she said to try and up to two meals a day.
My daughter just shows very little interest in food though - I would barely class what she eats at tea time as a meal.
Sometimes she is interested in finger food and refuses to be spoon fed, sometimes it’s the opposite way around.
I have tried breakfast a couple of times but she is just absolutely not interested at all.. everything just wastes.
What do I do, just keep offering and let her explore? Even if she doesn’t actually eat it?
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Exactly that. It's all about exploring at first. My LO is on 3 solids and milk
Would it be useful to vary the meal you offer? Maybe she might be more interested at lunch or dinner some days? Just a thought.
Exploring is a big part of the journey. It can be disheartening to see food not being eaten but the more you offer and let them explore, the more likely they are to start eating more. It doesn’t need to be an exact routine just fit in around you each day but I’d be offering 2 or 3 meals now even if it’s just one food type at a time.
3 meals - spoon feeding & then his bottles.
He will also have a melty snack or something 1/2 times a day too x
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