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Cot bumpers

How do you all feel about cot bumpers? I have this beautiful bedding set for my baby’s nursery and am planning on putting her in her own room tomorrow but I’m a little apprehensive with the cot bumper 😩 I know about the guidance on it but I really want to put it in, so wanting some advice or reassurance I guess...
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Personally I wouldn’t, the guidance is there for a reason and I would take the risk. But it is only guidance so it’s up to your own personal judgement

It is very beautiful but it’s not breathable. With baby being in her own room I wouldn’t put it in, I’d be in fear constantly!

I didn't keep anything I couldn't easily breath through (wadded up and shoved into my face) near my crib. If your crib has slats you could potentially tie it to the outside of the bars but...

Nope 👎🏼

i've always heard that nothing should be in the crib just mattress and sheets because it increases the risk of SIDS

Absolutely not. Just not worth the risk. Keep them for show but take them out when she goes in there.

I wouldn’t risk it at all it’s just not worth it! Keep them on the cot during the day for show so that you’ve not wasted money but take them off when she’s in the cot x

I have them for my 11m old and did for my now 5yr old. It's your choice

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We’re they ok with them? She’s 8 months now so could definitely move herself away from them if needed, I mean to not put her face near to it. X

My 5 yr old never had a problem neither does my little one now. He mostly smashes them down. I know I had them in my crib as a baby. Now my youngest doesn't nap much anymore during the day.

Pediatric experts advise against anything in the crib except mattress and fitted sheet. Just because someone else's baby survived with bumpers, pillows, or blankets doesn't mean every baby has or that it is safe.

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I don’t understand why people will trust ONE anecdotal story of it working out for this ONE kid over the guidance of doctors based on data from 1000s of children.

The data isn’t based on thousands of children, it is based on just over 200 babies within a 20 odd year period.

i wouldn't risk it. she may be fine with them and a lot of babies probably have been but is it worth the risk? x

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I know, I think it may be a case of taking it out on an evening when she goes to bed... X

I wouldn’t risk it. I was gifted some nice ones as part of a bedding set but two babies died on one side of my family from having things in cot / co sleeping and I am especially scared about things like that. I’ve decided to use the ones I was gifted to mark out a little reading snuggle corner in the room that’ll eventually be his bedroom.

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That’s a really good idea, all my family have had bumpers and had no problems, but that doesn’t mean to say we won’t. The general consensus is to not put it in there, so I’ll take it out on a night when I put her to bed. X

I’m thinking of getting one of those little reading tent things and lining it with the bumper - think it’d be quite cute. So just one idea

I don’t like the idea of them at all, however I found that my LG would get her legs trapped in the bars and wake up more often that she should. As she sleeps in a swaddle up bag she can’t free herself. She’s only ever moved up the cot so I put the bumpers I had in a bedding set around the bottom of the crib which covers the gaps and is nowhere near her face. I do also have the angelcare sensor pad monitor so I’d know within seconds if she was in trouble.

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I also have the angel care sensor mat monitors. X

absolutely beautiful bedding... but no safe for baby xx

It says on packaging “for decoration purposes only”. Why people would risk their children’s lives is beyond me. It Is your choice but atleast make the right.

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It doesn’t say anything on the packaging as it was hand made.

My opinion obviously before I’m jumped on.

My little one is almost 2 and I still don’t let him sleep with anything in his bed, I am terrified that he will sleep to hard and not be able to wake up if his face was up against a pillow/stuff animal etc. It is your choice though whatever you are comfortable with.!

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Sorry if I sound blunt or rude also, just find it crazy that you know the risks and guidance, yet still want to go ahead and use them anyway? By all means use them through a day to look pretty, But take them off before baby goes to sleep x

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I value your opinion, I didn’t say I want to go ahead and use it when she’s sleeping, it came with the set so I obviously want it in there as it’s the centrepiece of the room. I was just asking for advice and the general consensus is to not put it in when she’s asleep so I won’t. X

My advice would be to remove all 3 items from the cot. Square pillow, cylinder pillow and the bumper. One thing I remember is being so tired sometimes that you forget things and you forget yourself. So I found it best to remove the possibility of me forgetting even being a problem! Love the idea of the items being useful later in a den or snuggle reading nook. Bumper can go round the legs/base as decor only! Send pictures/videos to whoever gifted it to fulfil all righteousness, then strip them off. These additional objects are just not worth the potential/actual risk they pose.

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The pillows wouldn’t be in when she’s sleeping anyway, I’m very lucky she’s such a good sleeper and I’m not sleep deprived enough to be too tired to forget to take them out. I bought the set myself, I will just make up the cot every morning, I am a very houseproud person and like things to look aesthetically pleasing which was the reason I bought the cot set. It’s the centrepiece of the room so I’d like it in. I will just take all out on an evening before bed. Thank you for your opinion/advice though, I appreciate it. X

And I'm too good of a driver to be in a car accident. Things happen that we can't anticipate or predict, are you really more concerned with the aesthetic of the room than you are with your daughters life?? I am absolutely judging you right now, extremely hard.

Very beautiful, but don’t use it with your baby. If anything happened you would feel horrible. Better safe then sorry.

Its super cute but I bought a mesh bumper so if he were to have his face near it, he would still breath fine

I totally understand the desire to have a beautiful crib set for your baby, but it’s just not safe. You can save it and use it when baby is older if you really want (and get lucky and don’t have a crib climber like mine 🤣) but even then it becomes a hazard because baby can use it as leverage to prop up and out of the crib. Unfortunately I just think it’s a no. I just wish they’d stop making these! They are so damn cute and often come in sets making them even more difficult to avoid. Ugh. It’s hard. But, yeah, ditch it for sure.

I have a few bumper sets that were mine when I was little and couldnt wait to use them with my bubs but now they are not recommended. My dad the other day couldn't understand this as I turned out fine 🤣 he lost it when I said blankets are also not recommended haha. Although they raised 7 kids and we all turned out fine ill be following the current advice. Better safe than sorry for my bubs x

My little ones cot has bumpers on, they are not one whole piece but ones you wrap around a bar at a time. Personally they have been a blessing for me, my little one would roll in the sides and wake herself up, or have a mark on her face! You do you, at the end of the day guidelines change all the time, my mum couldn’t believe it when I told her I wasn’t going to buy a whole piece bumper. Also, I don’t agree with the judging and shaming you have had in some comments. My honest advise would be to wrap them over the outside of the cot 😊 Btw it is a beautiful set 🥰

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Thank you, I appreciate that. I came on for advice before putting baby in the crib with the bumper in and have said numerous times that I’ll be taking it out when she’s in after so many people have said they would and you still get busy bodies “what if you forget” 🙄 X

They're so beautiful 😍. I personally wouldn't have the pillows in the cot. Not till baby is older anyway. But maybe you could use the bumper on 2 or 3 of the sides only.

If you know the guidance then that should be enough. The amount of horror stories which come from cot bumpers outweigh a pretty cot for me. An empty cot is a safe cot.. this is the life of a child we are talking about. They’re never going to remember pretty frilly bedding anyway, it’s purely for us aesthetically at the end of the day. It’s beautiful, but please, take the risks seriously and consider your choice really closely! X

The issue with cot bumpers isnt just them being breathable. The ties can come undone and strangle your baby. That set is really pretty but it's really bot worth the risk. Could you maybe get a toy box and use the items to decorate it? Have the bumper round the edges and the pillows on top?

As beautiful as they are, it’s a flat out no from me. An empty cot is a safe cot. I would not risk my baby’s safety for aesthetics. And for people saying that it’s ok because they’ve used them in the past or their parents used them back in the day, advice and guidance change because tragic things happen. Research is undertaken as a result of children dying. Children weren’t strapped in or put in car seats back in the day. It was widely agreed that you could smoke like a chimney whilst pregnant years ago. It was also normal for babies to be weaned at 3-4 months old. None of these are now common guidance because they have been proven to be dangerous.

Super pretty death trap Xx

Looks nice but take them out when you put your baby in. Better to be safe x

That's so beautiful I might even call my baby Nancy xxxxxx

Not safe at all

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Google justice for Preston it may make you change your mind

Wow only just reading this! Never heard of it in My hv saw my baby's cot with his bumpers in and said nothing other than looks very practical so he's slept with them in 🙄😥 way to make me feel bad this post off to remove them now

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Oh please don’t feel awful 😕 parenting is such a bloody minefield and it’s pretty naughty of your HV to have not mentioned anything to you! We live and learn when it comes to raising our little ones; you have done nothing wrong!

@Fiona Don’t feel bad, you weren’t to know if you haven’t been told. 💕 X

Where did you get these from there lovely xx

Depends on how old and if you feel comfortable. I used them around 1-My son kept putting his feet between the slats. He also slept with a stuffed animal 🧸 it’s beautiful btw!

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