Sleep training problems at 12 months old

We have been co-sleeping with our almost 12 month old baby (I know it’s not good, no judgement please) one parent sleeps with the baby and the other on the couch. We started doing that after she couldn’t fit in the bassinet anymore and would not go in the crib. We keep putting it off because she is so very attached to us especially because of being a covid baby. She doesn’t even sleep well during co-sleeping. She wakes up at cries 5-7 times a night. She’s teething pretty badly so I think that’s why she’s waking up so much. She’s not going through her leap yet so that can’t be it.
When we do put her in the crib to start she cries so much she makes herself vomit.
Anyone else out there have any suggestions especially about the vomiting. I’m trying to figure out which method to use but this is one of the biggest problems with the sleep training.
Also we only have a one bedroom apartment right now so that makes it harder. I also was going through ppd but now I’ve come out of it. That held us back with the sleep training. New parents here.

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Hi! I recommend reading 12 hours by 12 weeks! It saved our sleep SO much! It’s an easy read and they even have an audio book. We now have our little one sleeping 12 hours a night and he is on a feeding and napping routine. The first week is difficult but once you push through it works!

My baby is 7 months so a little younger than yours, and isn’t too bad in her own bed but she takes a long while to settle.
Has she got a comforter/teddy or something you can sleep with for a few days so it smells of you, same with cot sheets, put her in the baby grow/pjs that she wore the night before (while sleeping with you) have a really good bedtime routine and put her down in the cot and stay with her the whole time, hand on her/shhing/patting anything that helps her.
Maybe first few nights try putting her down really sleepy and see how she goes.
Like I say my baby does sleep in her bed but she’s a nightmare to get down I have to feed or rock her to sleep she won’t go down on her own, but these things have helped me in the past she’s just been moved to her own room. Xx

Have you tried the furber method?

Blossom antenatal do free classes online about sleep - one happening now - you can ask questions etc.

You don’t have to let your baby cry. Especially if she throws up from it. There’s other way less traumatizing options. Have you heard of sleep associations? So pretty much you do something while putting baby to sleep that baby will associate with sleep. For instance, when you put her to sleep in your bed, pat her butt or sing a song, hum, something of that nature; if you don’t do that already. Once baby is used to sleep associations, you can start doing that but while baby is in the crib. Don’t leave her until she’s fully asleep. So put her in the crib and pat her butt or hum. Then if she wakes up and starts crying out for you, go in and comfort her with the sleep association. She’s also old enough now that you can introduce a lovey or security blanket. Wear the blanket or lovey around the house so it gets your scent. Also, sleep on her crib sheet so it smells like you. It’s more work and takes a bit longer, but doesn’t result in half the tears or vomit.

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