Any SAHM’s get an “allowance”?
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His money and my money is our money
Um… look up financial abuse. Being a SAHM is a full time job, and the money he brings in is possible because you take care of BOTH of your child and take care of all household tasks. So the money earned is both your income. I also think he should be responsible for some of the housework as well, but that’s a separate discussion. I have my own credit card that my husband doesn’t have access to. I just tell him the balance at the end of the month and take money from the joint account to pay it off. He does the same with his credit card. It gives both of us financial independence and also is a sign of our trust in each other. That being said, if something is a want, not a need, and it’s more than $200, we usually discuss it first before purchasing.
If you didn't stay home w your/his child he'd have to pay for daycare. Put money in "his" savings? 😳Yeah it sounds like you both need to have a discussion on how your finances work as a married couple. Unless you signed a prenuptial agreement or something all his money is your money! If anyone is taking a hit right now it's you putting your career on hold to raise you guys child. Which I get it I'll do anything for my baby but he definitely needs a reality check
I hope you're taking what everyone is saying to heart because you don't deserve to be treated less than. You're supposed to be partners.
I’m in the same situation , as a sahm i want things to treat myself here and there but my bd never wants to give me only if it’s a need like for diapers etc.🥲 like at least treat me for taking care of your kids 24/7😭 this is why I’m eagerly searching for a job to have my own money because i don’t even get an allowance for the things i WANT just his card handed to me for NEEDS. his mother even gets mad at him for spending money on wants. Like what if i WANT a new blush because hey come on now I’m home 24/7 with my kids and any day i get the chance to get out i want to look GOOD , am i making any sense ?? Or do i sound needy haha idk that’s just me
@Kimberly YESSS exactly, you are making 1000000% sense. We need to treat ourselves too, or we don’t feel special or at least satisfied with ourself. I wanted to get US a new pillow set for our bed because our pillows are so uncomfortable to sleep on and I asked him if he would pitch in at least on his pillow so that it could lighten the load for me, and he said “it’s not worth it to me to have a new pillow for that price” like it’s not just for you it’s also for me and that’s just how much they are…? I don’t know, I still have uncomfortable pillows 🤣🙃
My husband’s money is my money. I’m a SAHM taking care of OUR kids and I’d be furious if he said that to me. Being a mom is so hard at time especially being with them 24/7 and never really getting a break. My husband helps out with the chores on the weekends and sometimes makes dinner during the week because sometimes you just need that little breather of not having to do everything alone. I recently started getting my hair colored every few months and he made a stink about the cost but I just told him I need to have something that I can do for myself to feel human. When I worked full time before the kids we still shared everything and had more freedom to spend and now I’m smarter with what we can afford and he knows that. You deserve to do things for yourself mama and feel supported. You deserve more than an allowance.
I’m a SAHM. My husband and I have a shared account. I use my credit card mainly and pay it off each time he gets paid(lol my credit limit is LOW like a couple hundred dollars low) I use my credit card on clothes for baby, diapers, food and wants if I want something small. This month for instance I NEEDED new shoes. I have EDS and I also have very bad ankles and feet due to it. So we decided to have me fitted for shoes and get a good pair that will benefit me as I’ve never splurged on shoes like this before. So he told me to charge it to my credit card and then he paid it off for me right away. That way I still had mkney to spend. If I go over my credit card he will pay it off so I have money. Whenever for whatever. Now he had to FORCE me to get my new shoes(I wear a women’s 13 shoes aren’t cheap for me) as I don’t like to spend money on me I feel guilty. I do speak to him before ever spending money on unnornal purchases for me or our kiddo. But he typically never says no.
I will say I did get told no to the Dyson hair wrap as he had just bought me a new car since mine broke down completely🤦🏼♀️ but otherwise he doesn’t typically care what I do. I’m the one in charge of our finances so he just assumes I’m making sure money goes to the savings each month though. He works and I take care of literally EVERYTHING else finances, bills, groceries, child, food, cleaning the whole shabang.
I was married before we had a kid and we have always shared the money. Whatever is left after bills we decide on collectively what to buy or what to do with. When our son was born, we obviously made less money and had less for ourselves, but he knows and sees how hard it is on me to be home all day
@Kimberly me 💯 looking for a JOB for my wants and also to socialize with adults. It’s exhausting just me and the baby all day long. Need to get out
I love my baby but we need a break 😂👋♥️
What…. Girl this is all wrong. No I don’t get an “allowance” my husband works so I can do my JOB staying home with our child. I buy what we need with a little want here and there, JUST like my husband does. He never acts like it’s his money or what he needs/wants is over my needs/wants. It’s the exact same as when I worked full time as well, there’s no mine over yours. Go ahead and start giving him a daycare bill if he wants to act like that. 🚩