MIL won’t stop asking to take my two month old to her house

Not wrong being annoyed. Last time I texted my MIL to ask how she was doing she told me to delete her number. When I asked where it was coming from she said she doesnt like me and never did. She also said I took her son away...(in reality his relationship with her was ruined from WAY before we even met because she is manipulative and toxic). Now that we have a 2 month old she comes to our house and is passive aggressive. She gets mad that I dont say much. But she literally told me not to speak to her. MILs are crazy!!

I would never let my kid alone with a MIL like her, even when the kid grows up!!! Especially the comment she made it tells a lot. Imagine tomorrow when your kid is 3-4 years old and she tricks the kid.
This is my personal opinion about it. I see her to be very unhealthy around the kid. She can have the whole time she wants when you are in the room!

You’re not overreacting or being too extra at all! If your MIL can’t take care of your child and soothe her while she’s in YOUR home, how does she expect to be able to do it when she’s not in your baby’s safe place?! And those petty comments she makes would just annoy me even further and make me that much less likely to even CONSIDER letting her keep the baby even when she’s older.

Stand your ground! If she persists, give her an ultimatum. Either she stops asking and respects the boundaries you and your husband have set, or you’re going to limit her time with your daughter.

I have a momster in law too and have been going through something similar. It’s frustrating, but you have to stand firm and hold your ground. This is YOUR child. Not hers.

I agree with all the ladies, and essentially. As they get older they are sponges. The good, the bad, they absorb everything. I won’t have trust enough to even leave my kid alone with her to go to the bathroom.
Protecting my child comes before everyone elses’ feelings, full stop.
It shouldn’t matter who they are, your baby comes first. Super glad your husband and you are a unit though.

This.is.the.story.of.my.life!
My MIL is the same. It really does bring relief to read everyone’s comments and realize I’m not alone. She hasn’t got the courage to ask for my baby to go with her this early, but I’m waiting for it to come down the pipe in the next couple of months. She was insistent on seeing the baby at 3 weeks and was trying to kiss i him. I had to softly snap at her. She doesn’t respect boundaries and my husband is too afraid to really set them with her. I’m literally on this island on my own.

I too am worried about when my baby gets older and has to experience her behavior. I don’t want him absorbing her behavior. I’M NOT SURE HOW I WILL BE ABLE TO HOLD UP THE BOUNDARIES ON MY OWN BUT IM DEFINITELY GOING TO TRY!
Best of luck to all the ladies ♥️

Ugh THANK YOU ALL it’s so validating to hear I’m not the only one who is going through this. I agree with you all, and especially the sentiment that we need to set some boundaries before she gets older!! It’s going to be a journey 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️