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Husband wants to go on vacations without me and leave me home with the kids

My husband and I keep having the same fight for years now. Always comes back up around the summer. He and I have been together for 17 years and married 9years. We have 2 beautiful boys 11 and 4. We have come along way from the 2 young kids we were when we started dating. He wants to go on vacations without me and leave me with the kids and all the house responsibilities. I am not okay with this. I want to go too. And don’t feel it’s ok for him to step out to go on vacation with friends or family and I have to stay home. I don’t know if I am wrong. He saids that I am and now is willing to end our marriage if he can’t have this freedom.

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He’s wrong to ask you to do that, maybe once every other year but not all the time, but will he allow you too go on vacation on ur own

No honey you’re not wrong if anything you need a vacation. 11 and 4 years old is the perfect time to go on a family vacation and make the most memories.

It’s either he needs to compromise or you go on a trip by yourself next time and there’s no excuses! Sometimes it’s good for mama to have her own time too! I went on vacation for 10 days without baby boy and hubby and at first he was iffy about it because he would be losing work but he knew I deserved it! And I told him when I come back he can have his alone time too! But I mean you should be able to go too tho so that’s not fair

Is it an option for you to go on girls trips and leave him alone with the kids as well? Because if that's the case, I feel like that's fair. I would let my husband go on trips without me and he would do the same, but we trust each other in that aspect. It's healthy for your significant others to do things without you and vis versa.

This would not sit well with me either. I would suggest that for every vacation he takes without you that you get to take one without him! We try to do a family vacation but also take turns taking trips with friends so we get a true break! Sometimes family vacations aren’t a true break so being able to take a weekend to ourselves is important BUT it’s only fair if you get to go on trips too! If he is the only one taking trips I would 100% have a problem with that! I would also suggest taking a weekend to do something together to reconnect! ❤️

Did he ever say why he don't want the entire fam come with? You are not wrong for sure hun ❤️

Wow I am going through the same thing!! Minus I’m 33 weeks pregnant & we have a 19 month old. We’ve been together 16 years. He likes to go on a 10/11 day motorcycle trip with his buddies every summer. This is the first I don’t want him to go because I am so pregnant & also I don’t want our toddler to have all these upsets & changes right before baby! Plus what if I suddenly went into labor or had an emergency & he’s 3/4 states away!

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Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

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And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

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