Dirty 30s - Treasure Valley Moms in their Thirties

Looking for friends!

I’m looking for friends that would want to meet up somewhere that kids can tag along. I’m thinking playdates at the park, coffee dates, etc. I’m 31, a full time accountant mom of a 3 year old and I really just need a friend to hang out with on weekends / evenings and someone to talk to! All of my family has moved out of state, so really needing someone to connect with besides my husband and kid. Let me know if you are interested in meeting up!

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Masturbating

So my boyfriend took a new job where he's going to be out of town for a couple weeks at a time. He lives watching me touch myself but honestly I prefer him touching me I really don't even like masturbating. So I know he's going to want a video which honest I don't have a problem sending but is there a way for me to enjoy it more. Maybe I just don't know what I'm doing 🤦🏼‍♀️I know that a lot to ask someone but I need to know how to pleasure myself before he leaves 😭

British Airways - Fit To Fly!

We are flying on Monday with British Airways (long haul to Caribbean) I will be 29 weeks! Midwife said I’m fit to fly and all good etc, but would not supply fit to fly as they do not do it neither does my doctor! So I got a private one, has anyone flown recently with them and is that all that will be needed?

Thanks so much in advance! 🤍

Was she insensitive to ask me for money in this situation?

I’m currently on maternity leave but returning to work soon. My baby is 1. Recently my eldest 10 year old daughter was rushed to hospital after seizures and cardiac arrest, we were in hospital for 5 days. I told my friend about it once we got discharged from hospital. I told her the whole story which is quite traumatic. 2 days later (so today) this same friend messaged me without asking how I am or how my daughter is first, and asks me for money. I told her I couldn’t lend her any due to being on maternity leave still and she responded with “I thought you were back at work”. Mind you a few days ago she was judging me for sending my baby to nursery and going to work, and said she wouldn’t be doing this with her baby and that she’ll be a SAHM and her husband will pay for the bills. (I have no issues with SAHM but she came across judgemental for my decision to go back to work).

Is it unfair of me to not let my child go to his father’s house alone?

So I am 8 weeks postpartum with my first child. My child’s father and I broke up around 3-5 days after he was born, we were only together for about 11 months. I tried my entire pregnancy to get closer to him and his family but was always met with pushback. After we broke up I tried to talk about how I felt, he told me he didn’t want to talk anymore and only wanted to speak about the baby.

A week and two days after my son was born I was rushed to the hospital for losing too much blood. I had a D&C and stayed in the hospital for two days. During the night after I came to in the hospital, he had been texting the whole day asking how the baby was doing. I can’t remember exactly what the conversation was but I remember saying I would let him know something after I got discharged in the morning. He proceeded to get upset that I didn’t let him know I was in the hospital and wanted to come take the baby. My family was with me in the hospital and he told me to only talk about the baby so I didn’t feel the need to let him know (also almost died lol). After this he started coming to see the baby for about 80 minutes each week, mostly being on his phone while holding the sleeping baby. His family came and saw us in the hospital when I gave birth for about 10 minutes. (They came, picked up the baby, huddled in a circle, took a photo of the grandfather with the baby then left) we saw his family three days after I told him to go home. There was a tense conversation that happened and that was how i learned we were broken up. His mother had to say it lol there was never a proper conversation between the two of us. He had also been caught in a lie by me but then lied to my face when I confronted him. Later her brought those things up and said he knew what he was doing.

Recently we have been discussing when the baby can see his parents. He asked if i would let our two month old go over there alone. Baby is exclusively breastfeeding and most used to me of course. I am not trying to keep the baby away from them but I feel like they have an issue with me. My thinking is if you don’t like the mom by proxy you will treat the child unfairly especially if I am not there. Also not willing to combo feed cause he is already sensitive to things I eat. I don’t feel comfortable with leaving him there alone until he starts speaking. I do not trust his father.

Thanks for reading I just needed to get that out and look for some advice.

Feeling lonely….

Anyone else found that the friends that you thought would be there for you when you had a baby, actually haven’t been?
Realising now how lonely I am, and how maternity leave is totally different to what I had hoped it would be… just me and the baby on coffee dates and lake walks alone most of the time

Hey bestie

Looking for mama friends and possibly a bestie. I’m 28 with 5 kids ranging 7m to 9 years old. I have my own business so I’m always at home. Genuine people would be nice to talk to.