Any kind words or motivation would be appreciated 🤍

1st of all you shouldn't feel any type of guilt and I'm so sorry to hear what you've been through. Your now in a safe place, keep it that way to safeguard your child and yourself. Have you reported this to the police, baby dad or not no one should treat anothwr human like this especially to someone who they claim to love, also there's womens domestic violence people who you can talk too they're great for advice and guidance

“I should never have closed that door on him.”

You see how you’re blaming yourself for what happened? That’s part of your brainwashing - he’s made you think it’s your fault this happened, that you deserved it in some way. That’s why you feel so guilty - because he’s convinced you that you brought it on yourself.

He should never have lifted a fucking finger in your direction and that’s the truth. He should never have laid a hand on you. He is the only one in the wrong here.

You should not be embarrassed. He should be scared of you and what you can do to him.

Take photos of the injuries with a good camera in good lighting. You might not be ready to talk to the police right now, but you might need to show them to someone someday.

You can do this. You are going to be so much better off without him. But you need time to heal and to undo all the damage he has done, mentally as well as physically.

Well done for getting out. So many women don’t manage to do what you’ve just done.

https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/the-survivors-handbook/ive-left-and-i-need-support/

You can do anything you put your mind to! 💕 you got this!

There are many women who has been in the same place as you or are still in the same situation and still hasn't found it within themselves to walk away. It is not your fault it's happened to you. But you've walked away and I hope he stays away. And you can absolutely do this. Many has done it and so you can you. Be kind to yourself and I hope you heal eventually. It'll take time but YOU CAN DO THIS. Sending hugs.
And also don't bottle up your emotions. If you want to cry, please do. It'll relief some of that anger.

1. Do not feel guilty or stupid. It's not your fault!

2. Don't waste your time and energy covering/hiding the bruises (unless it makes you feel better). Hiding it is only protecting him and he doesn't deserve protection. Your loved ones should be there to support you during this time.

3. Do not be embarrassed for someone else's actions. You didn't cause it. You didn't deserve it. You trusted someone who betrayed you with violence.

thank you so much really appreciate it. I haven’t spoken to the police because I’m generally scared what he will do if I do. If he tries coming back into my life I will call the police but I’m going to leave it for now he isn’t a nice person he threatening to kill my family if I don’t do as he says x

thank you so much your words have really helped me and I appreciate it so so much. This is exactly what I needed to hear, I just wish I had someone who I could talk to about all this but I can’t open up to my mum because all she will say is ‘your joking’ ‘omg what the fuck’ she won’t say anything to help me mentally just judgement xx

thank you it means a lot💙

thank you so so much this really helps appreciate it xx

your so right, thank you so much🥲❤️

I think sometimes mums can surprise you. If you were my daughter, I’d be heading round his house with a gas can and a box of matches right about now.

I hope you can find someone to talk to. One of the symptoms of being in an abusive relationship is you often find yourself isolated from your family and friends. Don’t be afraid to lean on them now. Like I said, you didn’t do anything wrong - this was all him.

If you’re in the UK, ring that helpline number I linked you. There’s help out there, you just need to let people in.

Firstly don't feel guilty, secondly don't blame yourself. Please also call the police to report the abuse and let them know what's happened. They can get a restraining order so he can't come near you. They might even arrest him and he might go to jail for what he's done if there's visual evidence like your bruises. Change the locks to your flat if he has spare keys. You can definitely bring your child up yourself as we women are superwomen. I do have a partner but I do 90% of everything myself and I know I could be a single mum if I had to. It sounds like you have your mum for support so that's good. The future will be bright for you. Just focus on yourself and your little one. Also when you're feeling up to it sign up to NHS talking therapies online and they can give you 6 weeks of free counselling over the phone. Wish you all the best x