I might get a little backlash from this but here we go

is this meant to not be incognito? just wondering before its too late

I agree with you. If my kid ever instigated something like that they’d be in major trouble, but knowing how to stand up for yourself is a valuable lesson to learn.
My MIL teaches kindergarten and there’s only so much she is allowed to do. Eventually she will tell the student being bullied to “take up for themselves” since she obviously can’t tell them to hit back😅

I understand the type of school system you’re talking about. I was bullied in high school and ended up being jumped by 4 girls. There was no cameras where it happened and even though witnesses told staff what happened, they made me go to juvenile court for disturbing the peace and put me in ISD (the exact punishment the 4 girls got) I had gotten knocked out, I did absolutely nothing to them. It’s really sad how some kids act and it’s also really sad how it’s handled in a lot of cases.

Talk to the teacher and if they don’t give a proper response, contact the superintendent right away. I agree people should stand up for themselves and others. Try to keep in mind this stuff does stay on record because she would get in trouble too. If she’s older, that wouldn’t be great due college if that’s her plan

@Favi no, I see people getting called out for going incognito,In the incognito for being "scared" not to stay stuff like this and I didn't know where else to go so I came here to see what others opinions are.

@Hannah yes I had a death threat against me at this school and my mom tried to get me transferred but the superintendent wouldn't do anything about it and denied my transfer so, my mom threatened them with court and that's when they finally let me transfer.

@Marie bully is about her size if not just SLIGHTLY bigger but my girl has never let anyone pick on her UNTIL she started school and idk what changed but she won't stick up for herself anymore. I'm definitely talking to the school tomorrow though and IF it continues like I said I'm gonna tell her okay it's time to start sticking up for yourself

@Ryelee I totally understand that it can go on her record but I'm more concerned about her getting pushed off a playground that's like 6ft off the ground at the moment. But I will most definitely go higher up if I have to to get this to stop

I was a few years older than her (third grade, I think), but I had the exact same problem. My mama finally went to talk to the teacher and informed her in no uncertain that if it happened again, I would be pushing back, and I would not be getting in any kind of trouble for it.

Well, sure enough, it happened again. And I defended myself (which was scary for me, because I wasn't a fighter or troublemaker by any means). The other girl never put her hands on me again, and we actually became friends after that and stayed close until our graduation from high school (after which we lost touch).

Also, I did not get in any trouble. 😁

it's sad how some schools seem to take up for the bullies instead of the victims. I had a girl bullying me in high school and didn't wanna speak up, because I was afraid it would just get worse. My mama finally got fed up and went to the principal and told him if it didn't stop, she'd be getting thr police involved. The principal actually sat there and begged her not to do that, because the girl already had so many complaints against her that if the cops did get involved, she'd end up in juvi. He was beside himself thinking about how this disgusting, vile brat's life could potentially be ruined, but didn't give a crap about the innocent girls she was bullying. 😒

sounds like we’re talking about the same place😆 my mom had to get me a lawyer for court and I ended up withdrawing to finish HS online to avoid being punished at school. I hope things get better for your kiddo soon. This is a tough situation.

I completely agree w/how your handling and would do the same!

So it’s the same kid pushing her each time? It is possible the kid just has an issue with keeping his hands to himself and he’s not specifically targeting your child. Not that that makes it ok.

You can certainly tell your child to get physical as well, but she may end up with consequences for that at school. And if she’s a rule follower it may be that she’s not fighting back because I’m sure the teachers have said not to do that.

Her actual teacher may not be the one on recess duty so I’d definitely just ask about what’s going on and how it’s being handled to make sure you have a full understanding of the situation.

Raise hell. Schools don't care if kids are bullied they care about exposure.
Talk to the teacher, if they don't fix it then send the superintendent a YouTube video of you publicly explaining the constant bullying and them not doing anything, and all the chances they had to do something.

Post it everywhere, also on the school's social pages if they have one.

Going public is the only way they will do anything.

Same thing happening with my son! I told he this next time if he gets pushed by the same person to push back. I've brought it to the teachers attention, and nothing is done. Today he came home with a scraped knee... so ya... to each their own. My son will be raised go never take the 1st punch but to defend himself afterwards.

I agree she should stand up for herself if the teach or principal won’t do anything. The only thing I worry about if it is a boy bullying her just don’t wanted her to get hurt if he does anything more to her if she fights back. Just a suggestion. Idk how you could possibly avoid that but poor baby. I would not tolerate my daughter getting pushed around at school

If you don’t get anywhere with teacher, could try speaking to the kids parents?

Its alright to stick up for yourself! But its not alright to resolve violence with violence! It depends on situation however best is to try to talk and explain. If none cares in the school about such occurrence then you probably should think of moving your child to better school

I agree with you and have raised my kids the same way. My son was relentlessly bullied through elementary and middle school due to his tourettes so we had to teach him to stand up for himself because the schools weren't doing enough.

Personally if other peoples kids cant keep their hands to themselves my kid doesn’t have to. Never will i let them get away with starting fights, or bullying, but if someone is hurting them my kids have the green light. Especially after they have been warned or an adult has stepped in and nothing has gotten better. Too many adults around and not enough happening to defend my kid, if the adults don’t like his reaction maybe it’ll make them move faster next time 🤦‍♀️ my son deserves for someone to stick up for him even if its himself. I wont raise him to rely on people that wont defend and protect him

@Katie will most definitely bring it to the kids parents if need be thanks for the advice

@Raminta I would if I could but as I said before at the bottom of my post, I can't afford to move her schools, and that is why I'm saying yes I am most definitely bringing it to the schools attention first and if that doesn't help I will try to speak to the parent if that doesn't work THEN yes I will be telling my daughter to push back

Update: they are separating the kids, they put my daughter with her best friend and have the little boy on the opposite side of the room, so the only time they will be around each other is on the playground and her teacher said she is going to keep a closer eye on him and Said she's had more than one occurrence with this one child so. Hoping it will resolve my daughter is ready to go back to school now. 🩷