HELP!

My nearly 10 month old has stopped sleeping. He’s completely out of routine. He used to sleep 8-7.30. Now he hates going into his cot. We have to cosleep every night to even get some rest and it makes me have the worst sleep because I hate sleeping with him as I’m scared something will happen.

If he’s in his cot he wakes up several times, I have even put his cot back in our bed room. I am losing my mind. My partner hasn’t slept in our bed for weeks now. I don’t know what to do.

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Its just a regression my little girl is going through the same thing it’s important to stick to the same routine so when they come out of it you wont have to start again. My girl sometimes woke 6-7 times at night shes passed the regression now and because i kept her in her cot in her room shes gone back to normal

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it’s been so many weeks now! Should I keep his cot in our room? It’s hard because I start work at 6am sometimes and I am shattered. I drive 1 hour each way to work too, so I feel so unsafe driving when I’m in this early

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It was 6 weeks for me and yes you should as what your doing is creating bad habits so even when the regression ends most likely he will want to stay in your bed and have all the attention at night i also work its hard but it wont last forever

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Thankyou I’ll try the routine again tonight. I leave work in 3 weeks so it should be easier from there

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Should I leave him crying in his room?? Because he will scream for up to an hour until I get him. I tried it last night

I feel like his dummy is causing problems I want to get rid of it

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I’m in this situation except our bed is big enough for partner LO automatically rolls to me and I’ve not slept for ages I wait for my partner to take her off in the morn to get a couple of hours 🙈

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I wish my partner could take him! My partner works half the night so if he woke up as early as baby woke up he’d have about 2 hours sleep😩😩

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My little one was like this the last two weeks (nearly 10 months) however last night slept through 7.30pm- 7am again. We spotted his top 4 teeth coming through it felt like we were going through a nightmare as we had to co sleep too as he was waking up soooo much during the night 🤦🏼‍♀️ I’ve been keeping routine exactly the same as before but we have tried relaxation techniques so I give him a little massage and bath before we start the bed time routine and I’ve made sure his bed space is darker and correct temp etc

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I’m very fortunate he can he let’s me have as long as he can give but the build of disturbed sleep is hard I’m headachey and my eyes hurt a lot of the time, hope your LO lets you sleep soon

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Just to say I’m having the same issue out of nowhere - you’re not alone!

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Leaving him to cry in his room will create separation anxiety. Definitely best to avoid that at all costs.

Dummies can cause issues, sadly.

Keeping in your room is better as you help regulate his sleep and temperature and breathing. Of course the exception to this is smoking, rec drugs and alcohol.

If you are not safe to bed-share (and don’t smoke, rec drugs, drink alcohol) can your cot be side carted to your bed?

So long as you say yes to all (not just a couple) then you are perfectly safe to bed share
• no dummy
• breastfed only
• no smoking
• no alcohol (both you and partner)
• no recreational drugs (both you and your partner)
• no medications (both you and your partner
• no other children in bed
• no animals in the bedroom
• no loose bed clothing/linen
• baby wears same amount of layers to you
• mattress is firm
• no gaps for baby to fall into
Saying no to just one, can increase the risks.

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hi why would dummy cause a risk? Because doesn’t a dummy decrease the risk of SIDs?

When does it actually become safe to bed share

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We have definitely been bed sharing because the cot is next to my bed atm (as he’s not sleeping) and he will NOT sleep in it.

Although, I don’t breast feed and he has a dummy that’s the only two no

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So for bed sharing a dummy is a risk because it prevents baby being at the breast which reduce the protective hormones in Mum.

Dummies actually both increase and decrease risk of sids (when baby is in a cot) - so the actual study stated that where no dummy was introduced, the risk of sids was decreased. Those with a dummy compared to those never having a dummy was increased.

But “where a Dummy was introduced, SIDs occurred on the nights where a dummy was not used.” - Dummy manufacturers and other have honed onto this section of the study and ignored the rest of the study. So the best thing to do is not to introduce a Dummy in the first place, but if you have introduced a dummy, wait until 12mo and then remove it.

The risks associated with bed-sharing reduce after 18mo when there is no longer a risk of SIDS.
But with you using formula and a dummy, it would be at your own risk to bed-share until little one is older.

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