My son still doesn't eat solids for me and is waking at night hungry

My son doesn't eat for me. As much as I've tried solids, he has a couple favorites and everything else shoved off of his table or he screams at the sight of it on his plate. His daycare says that he eats for them perfectly but the issue is on weeks like this one where we are on vacation, he doesn't have the daycare feeding him. So I'm stuck trying to get him to eat anything and finding that literally every meal at this point is going to be Mac&Cheese cause he won't touch anything else.

He started off the week sort of eating yogurt, banana, baby cereal and it's gone downhill where now he refuses to eat those and is refusing pouches. I've heard of babies being off food due to teething so I thought I'd follow his lead which has led to these 12am scream fests because he's hungry. My family is mad cause he's waking all of them and I don't do formula or bottles anymore since he was eating fine at daycare and sleeping through the night (7pm to 6am).
Yes, I've asked daycare how they feed and try to mimic it at home. Yes, I've asked my pediatrician and she says he eats to let him be hungry if he doesn't want to eat.
I have no idea how to handle these midnight wakes as I know if I feed anything, I have to brush teeth and then he's wide awake and not wanting to sleep for an hour. I don't want that to be a habit.

Please help.

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Maybe if he wakes offer him some water instead of milk that way you don’t need to worry about brushing his teeth

I have tried water and he is up again in an hour hungry.

Do you give him milk before bed? Like milk, bath, then brush teeth then bed?

@Emily our bedtime routine is bath, sippy of milk (6oz-8oz) and book, brush teeth, then I lay with him and rub his back til he falls asleep.

It might just be a sleep regression if he’s getting a full belly before bed

I promise you not brusing his teeth a couple of times isn't going to hurt him! Give him a bottle in the middle of the night and just go back to bed for the sake of both of you. You don't have to be perfect every time! This image that mothers are putting on social media isn't all roses, and I guarantee you that no mother is perfect and following every step that they "need to." The only thing that matters is that your baby is fed and happy, and you get some piece of mind as well!

Also, I'm a sahm mom, so my son doesn't go to daycare, but I used to work at daycares and it all depends on their schedule and how they run the place but ALOT of them give the kids 30 minutes to eat and then what they don't eat they just throw the food away. Depending on how many children they have to teachers, their focus isn't solely on your child and if they eat a couple of bites they will say your child ate fine and in reality isn't eating as much as you think they are. So don't feel like you're a failure at home because honestly

2. He may be eating the same there as he is at home and they are saying he's doing great. You just have to be mindful of that. Also how does he do when you eat something? Does he act like he wants it at all? My son won't eat very much when I offer him a plate of food, but if I'm eating something he WANTS it, so I always make me a bigger plate and share with him. Also he loves fruit so I have to hide that from him until he eats other things because as soon as he sees something he knows he likes he won't touch anything else, he only wants that. Maybe just keep trying different ways and see what works for you. Because no kid is the same and I don't give a crap what these mothers post, it's not as easy and they all make it seem, you just have to find what works for y'all!

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@Amber thanks! I am going to just do some food tonight. As for the daycare, he has a 4to1 teacher ratio and he is the youngest so he sits right next to her mostly due to the fact that he still isn't holding utensils and so she has to spoon feed some stuff they eat and the other children are about 2yrs old at that table so they are pretty self sufficient. I hope she is being truthful but she does say when he eats some/all/2nd helpings. He usually only does seconds for fruit like yours.
As for how he is at home, he will watch us eat but not want to engage with what we eat. He seems interested as we put it to our mouth but when we offer it, he shakes his head or looks away. When we put it back on our plate, he will push it to the floor/cry/want to play with something. When we have him at his table and eat off of his plate, pretty much get the same results as if he's on our laps.

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