Dread second child

I dont have long left with my 2nd baby, my 2 year old is still very clingy to me. I am dreading the arrival of 2nd baby to be honest. I'm not looking forward to it when it comes to night times. We still co sleep partly. He goes down in his own cot and then when he stirs in the night it's for cuddles, so I take him through with me because we all get cuddles and sleep all night.

So I am stuck. I feel awful. I don't know how to transition him to be by himself all night.

Anyone have any advice 😢

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Can dad get involved more?

We're in a similar position as my 2.5 year old much prefers me in the night, but we're working towards dad doing most of the night wakes until 5am or so, when he comes to me for cuddles. It feels sustainable as I can cosleep with both littles for the last couple of hours, but focus on new baby the rest of the night. Our older boy sleeps a lot better these days so it's only 1 or 2 wakes that dad has to cope with x

I’m in the same situation here! It’s so daunting isn’t it! Sorry I haven’t got any advice for you. My husband works away most of the time so there’s no point in me getting him involved because the majority of the time I’m going to have to cope by myself 😭
I just keep telling myself it’ll work itself out because it has to!

We’re still co sleeping all the time 🙈

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