Am I being cruel?

Back to work next week and baby is ebf, I’ve only been away from her once for 5 hours while dad took her to a farm. I’m going to be at work for 12 hours my first day back. I’m terrified, I feel like it’s really cruel to my daughter. We didn’t do any weaning as I’d like to still breast feed her. She feeds to sleep and I’m so worried I’m going to be traumatised by not being able to feed at all that day. She’ll be asleep when I get home. It’s going to be such a shock for her.

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That sounds scary tbh. Im going back to work on Tuesday for the first time ever. But my shift is 10AM - 3PM plus traveling. So I will be gone from 9AM till around 4PM. We have tried lately to feed her mostly only for night time sleep and some naps. But I been trying to get her used to not have milk for like 7/8 hours. My partner has never been with her longer than 2h without me so it's gonna be a struggle as she doesn't take bottle at all.

My baby can go longer stints when I'm not there as she has water, oat milk (both in a cup) and food. We make a point that we has snacks with high water content so she's not dehydrated in my absence. She then feeds as normal when I'm with her.

I personally would have a day before you go back (even a half day) away from baby during nap/meal times so you can practice. Least then if it does go tits up, you can be honest with your boss about it... And if it goes really well, it'll lessen the worry.

I reduced the number of breast feeds before going back to work so she was only missing out on one in the middle of the day. She seems to manage fine at nursery without - they will find a way to get baby to sleep for naps, but when I pick her up she’s upset until she has a feed

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