CIO Method

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Has anyone successfully gone through with CIO method?

I’m at the end of my tether here, I haven’t had a full nights sleep in a year and I’ve literally tried everything to improve my daughters nighttime sleep.

How long do you leave them to cry for? I tried leaving her tonight and gave up after 20 mins as she was just stood up in her cot hysterical 😫 I really think she would have cried all night if I just left her.

It’s so frustrating as she falls back to sleep within 60 seconds of being sat in the chair with me in her nursery but if I try to put her in her cot she immediately starts screaming. I do not like co sleeping but for the last two weeks I’ve ended up bringing her into bed with us from about 1am after trying to get her to sleep in her cot for hours on end.

Have I left it too late for CIO to work? Me being in the room makes her worse if I won’t pick her up, if my partner goes in she just screams until I go in and then as soon as I hold her she instantly stops crying.

I’m exhausted 😫

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I've done this method with both mine ans it does work it don't matter what age, only difference I do is if they are standing I go in lay them down and leave no talking no eye contact and usually after 30mins they have passed out

It's a method that if your gunna do it you need to follow through otherwise they know they have won and get used to it and makes it so much harder later down the road I think

Have you tried Ferber?
Where you go in at intervals, don’t pick up, but just reassure for 2 minutes before leaving again.
It can take a little while before a baby stops crying, 20 minutes believe it or not isnt that long. But, if you follow it it should only take a week max to see results

I would try things like controlled crying and ferber before resorting to CIO. Research suggests that they don't feel any less separation anxiety they just stop crying cause they know you won't come

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