Feeling so useless !

I just dont feel like i am enough for my 6 month old LG. It wont stop playing on my mind that i really dont know what to do with her on a day to day basis so i fear that she will get bored of the same thing eventually, i want to take her for a walk outside sometimes but the anxiety i get from goinf out with her completely stops me (i have gone out with her obviously but not as often as other mums would). I feel like such a failure… i just want the best for her but i have no idea what to do. My heart feels so heavy i feel like a rubbish mum and i dont know what to do to be any better , i feel so guilty that im not enjoying motherhood as much as i probably should be :(

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This sounds like postpartum depression/anxiety. GP or HV can help you access mental health support, it can be life changing x

Why don’t you start small and build up? First go for a little walk round the block and then a little further each time as you feel comfortable! Do you have any mum friends/relatives who could go with you to a baby group or class? Sometimes having moral support can help a little? I bet you’re an amazing mum! It’s really hard adjusting and like Mila said above it might be worth talking to GP or health visitor

If you are feeling particularly low or anxious I would highly recommend Panda on Facebook. They help with anxiety worries big and small.

Hi lovely,
I’m sorry you feel this way. You’re the perfect mum for your baby and their whole world. You worrying about it means that you care and want everything what’s best for your baby. Never compare yours to other mums!
I’m not sure why you feel anxious about going out? But perhaps as others said professional advise could be a good idea. I’ve suffered in the past with anxiety(and still do) but therapy and medication really helps to deal with it.
If you ever would like to chat, please just send me a message x

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