HELP TEACHER HIT MY KID :I’m fuming! But need opinions ladies I really need some advice .

My son started pre school 3 days ago, his behavior was not the Best the first day and 2nd day was a lil better and the teacher said he did a lot bette today.
My son don’t like it. He looks sad and said he don’t like the teacher. After a lot of digging . He says the teacher hits him behind his head and yells at him a lot. He’s 4 . Why should I do? I believe him but I don’t want to accuse her if she didn’t.

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my little brother is 5 and does this stuff a lot,, a lot of the times it’s a lie to try get out of school, can usually catch him out by saying ‘okay we’ll il go talk to your teacher tomorrow about it and tell her what you’ve said and she what she says’ and then he freaks out lol😂maybe he’s just trying to get out of school xx

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I asked him a few times and he keeps saying the same story , even said another kid got hit on his knees and head . He said the first day he got him on the back of his head . I said what about today he said no he was being good , but that kid got hit for being bad. I said should mama email and tell her something he said mama call her and tell her stop yelling at me and not to hit me. It seems like he’s telling the truth .

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I would assume they have cameras. Ask to review footage. This should always be within your rights especially if there are allegations of abuse. Should be totally fine if they have nothing to hide..

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Do not assume it’s a lie! Even if he had bad behavior that is not warranted from a teacher!! I would go to the school and ask to speak with the dean or principal or whoever is in charge

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should I take him to school tomorrow?

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I wouldn’t but I don’t know all your circumstances, follow your gut!

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I’m so nauseous right now, my head is spinning;(

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I’m nervous they may delete it or cover up if I ask . I’m not sure if I should call the cops

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would you change schools ?

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i would be out of there quicker than you can blink and filing a police report

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Look, i don't know your little one so I can't say that they are lying or telling the truth.. I know when my daughter is telling the truth just by the way she looks at me. But what I will say is its not always as sinister as it seems.. I'm a nursery nurse and you wouldn't believe how many times children say it. I've took a group of children to toilet/ wash hands before and I've put my hand on the back of their head as they are coming out to keep track of how many I've got (hard to explain in txt lol). I've literally had kids turn around and say why did you hit me?!
Again, I don't know the circumstances, you, your child or the place they are in. I just wanted to put the point across that it's not always as it seems. Regardless it obviously needs addressing.

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Do you know any of the other parents? Without going into any detail could you ask them if their child is happy with the teacher? Are there other members of staff in the classroom? Are there cctv? Whatever you do put your concerns in writing and send it to the head of the preschool and request you have a response within 24 hours otherwise you will be taking it further.
I knew a parent once who was investigated by the school due to concerning things her child was saying about her. Shortly after he made investigations about them. My 14 year old son recently accused his teachers of raping him…he’s in a specialist school (they did not however he was mid meltdown in school at the time). My point is get both sides.

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I’m confused to who do I talk too first

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Yeah I agree with this seems like a good route to go.
Did he say what he did to get hit? Like what is being bad? I see in your post it says the other boy who picked on your son got hit as well , did you ask your son what he did to get hit as well?

Try to get all details -check your son's for any marks or change in behavior etc. Or even stay awhile there when you drop him off

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no the boy didn’t pick on my kid . My son said that boy got hit for not listening as well .
My kid was wild and don’t listen but I don’t think teachers are supposed to hit no matter what . Am I wrong ?

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unfortunately I don’t know any of the kids parents . We just started 3 days ago .

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I would just walk in, ask to speak to the head supervisor and request camera footage. That way they are caught off guard and can’t hide anything.

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Talk to the director/asst director and ask to see their camera footage. You know what time is pickup? Just wait around for a lil bit and ask one of his classmates parents if their child is happy with the teacher so far. I don’t think you need to know them to ask this question. Just be vague with your question. Is there more than 1 teacher in his room? Have him point out whoever hit him. I’m not calling anyone’s child a liar, but I would get more details first.

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