Mum shaming

Has anyone ever been mum shamed for their LO having set naps and missing out on some stuff because its Nap time?? I've found having set naps massively improves her mood I guess I'm just looking for reassurance.

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I’ve got set naps too, same here she’s fussy as hell without plus massively affects her night time sleep

I wouldn’t say I’ve been mum shamed but definitely people without kids really don’t get it.
Everything I do revolves around him napping as it effects his night sleep otherwise.

We plan every day round naps too! I also wouldn't say shamed for it but people definitely don't understand how important that good nap is. If my baby is napping at a time we've planned something then I'm sorry but I'll be late 😂
In a couple of years our babies will be in school and it will be the end of this special time, know you're doing the best for your baby and enjoy her happy mood when she wakes 😊 xx

Honestly. I have set naps but I still take my son out and if he falls asleep that’s just tough on everyone else Bevause he needs his naps.
Some people say wake him up and I say no because my poor child needs his nap

And honestly I don’t go out most days Bevause his morning nap is very important so I’d prefer to go out after lunch.

Yep, mainly my mum friends with babies that sleep wherever whenever and don’t get it! My little boy will only sleep in his bed, I know I wouldn’t enjoy myself if I went out when he was due a sleep cause he’d just make my life hell 😂😂😂 wish I had one that would just drop off whenever,,, but no! 😂

I usually just brush off any comments buy saying something like ‘yeah but if she doesn’t nap nobody will have a good time, trust me’

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I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

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