Relationship challenges

They say the first year with a child is the most challenging for your relationship & I 1000% agree. I’ve definitely had my share of troubles with my partner since having our little one.

I think you’re always going to have challenges but I’ve learned to argue only over the stuff that matters. I’ve had to bite my tongue and just say this isn’t worth the argument so we can talk when we’re both being civil because tension is only created when your mad and it never solves anything. Have a side talk and tell him you’re both adapting to life changes and you have to work together and not against each other. Tell him it’s not only for y’all but especially for the baby, and neither can be your best for baby when your stressed and aggravated. Make sure you’re always talking and communicating respectfully. At the end of the day ask each other hey was there anything about today that I could have done better or something I need to work on and then tell him the same thing for him what he done or didn’t do that bothered you but most importantly tell each other what you did right and give praise for that. Even the small things like taking out the trash, tell him thank you for that

And you appreciate him helping clean up. Or when he helps with the baby or does things around the house. Anything always give kudos to each other and it makes you feel better and insinuates you to do it more. That’s really helped on my relationship. I’ve learned men are simple minded and they need structure on being told what to do so I make a list of things I would like done and things that needs done and we both work on it on our own time and that helps given specific duties.!

My husband and I are going through the exact same thing & I was desperate to figure out what to do. The best advice I received is to talk with your husband and write down 3 things you think he needs to work on & 3 things he thinks you need to work on. This will help explain what you mean and try to explain your feelings