Stress

We do, but they stop giving those in the nicu donated breast milk around 32 weeks and he’s currently 39 weeks and 1 day.

I’m at that point because I’m so mentally exhausted and with him being frustrated with this nicu, it doesn’t make it any easier.

I'm sure formula will get the job done since baby is 39 weeks now, unless I'm wrong.

I understand your husband means well and I’m sure he has your babies best interests at heart but to be completely honest I don’t feel it’s his place to dictate that he’s strictly on breast milk. I think you should let him know now you’re feeling, he might not know how physically exhausting producing milk is. Especially if you’re dealing with other stresses. Combi feeding allows you a break and your baby will still get all the benefits from your breast milk, hopefully your husband can see it doesn’t have to be all or nothing ❤️

Agree with Isobel. If he wants to pressure you he should also provide all the support for you like wake up with you to wake you up to pump and he can talk to the doctors if he wants something said to them. Doesn't have to give you work to do when he could do it himself (if you are both on board). Hope you get some rest soon! Take care, sounds like you're doing a great job!

My bub was in the nicu aswell, its so mentally hard on parents, especially mums having to pump without a bub crying etc. I just did what I could. The nurses would wake me every four hours or so but it was getting so tiresome. So some nights I'd do it every six instead. Bubs still latched day 4 and I was able feed when I visited. There is light at the end of the tunnel its just so hard during it. Make sure to go easy on yourself

Am sorry you're bub is in nicu and pray for a fast full recovery. I hated bf and just did 3 months and switched to combination feeding and full formula. However my partner was such stress about fully bf because he thinks only breastfeeding milk is worth it. And obviously men don't understand anything about how hard bf is and they cbf about it. He was helpful as he cooked healthy meals for me and such but bf is just not for me. It's unfortunate your nurses aren't supporting you as needed in such a stressful environment. However I'd suggest you be firm with your husband about your fears and feelings on bf because only you know how hard it is and only you can make this decisions not him. And not when he's gonna just stress you on it and not assist with it. Formula works just fine if not better. Or combination feeding. They're heart is in the right place but they don't understand anything and if you want your sanity then you have to redirect their energy elsewhere. Perhaps try expressing and get him to feed while

You rest?? Also get him to write down all his concerns and questions and he can ask those questions himself and understand things himself. Because he'll never believe what you say. Myself am a nurse and my partner acted like he knows it all. I'd just tell him mate am not arguing with you on things I know myself. Just talk to the medical team yourself. They also don't wanna do things themselves so then tell him to leave it alone because you decide what's best as mama. Be firm from the beginning otherwise you'll be a nervous stressed wreck brought on by him. I hope I don't come off as this or that negatively.