I'm an idiot

We have a one year old together who we both love more than anything. I had a really rough pregnancy almost died rough he had to come home from BCT and for some reason they still haven't brought him back. We were having money issues and I had ppd we fought all the time. We're on a break, we still live together and he still provides for us he's got a great job now. I'm in therapy and finally starting to feel good I still have bad days but who doesn't. I'm an idiot tho because we've "been on a break" for almost 5 months now and while there are days where we're happy and stuff together I feel like he just doesn't want to get back together. We go to his parents house every week and I love his family but if we're not getting back together idk what to do I don't have a job and I don't want to be waiting on him forever.
Also we're still intimate at least twice a month.

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Not really a break though Is it if you’re still intimate. Have u spoke to him about it!

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He provides and you all go to the in-laws AND you’re having sex? This is not a break. Either way, tell him you want to be a family but ask him point blank if he feels the same way.

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Don’t blame yourself so quickly, if he changes feelings then he needs to acknowledge it. Communication is key even tho you can see his actions but both of you need to acknowledge it. I don’t know who asked for the break what type is person he is but to clear some boundaries, the talk is needed. The talk doesn’t need to be hard as well. As long as you know what you want right now.

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