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I’m not legally married but my spouse threatened to kick me out his house because I won’t listen to him and trying to be slave to him and his mother . He want me to cook , clean, washing clothes for everyone in the house . I have two kids with him and I’m currently pregnant. His mother and his special brother lives with us . I just can’t understand why he doesn’t see that his mother living with us is a problem. She always in our business. My kids feel left out because he can’t even just spend time with his kids without his special brother by another mother wants to tag along. My kids are acting out because he keeps disrespecting me in front my kids . I hate it here and I have no family or friends. So now he is threatening me to get out because I refused to take care of someone else kid and do stuff for his mother . I tried talking to him today in a civil manner and it got me in more trouble where he puts his hands on me . I want out . I don’t want to be with him anymore. I’m very suicidal because of him and his narcissistic ways

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Love I’m so sorry your going threw this ! But your pregnant and he put his hands on you .. it’s time to get out I’m not sure where you located but call 211 , or a information hotline and let them know and see what assistance they can service you with to leave .you and your children and unborn deserve better and they need you please do not leave them here all alone in this moment I know it don’t feel like it but your stronger then you think please hold on

Can you get yourself into a hostel through a domestic violence charity by any chance? And into a hotel or bnb for the meantime while you make plans to escape? I’m so sorry you’re feeling like this, I’m more than happy to talk if you feel you need someone to vent to or lean on when times are tough i know how hard it is dealing with a narcissistic and abusive partner 🥺 sending love and strength 🤍🤍

I’m trying to be strong but I have no more energy left in me to fight this battle. I ran away with my kids before and got arrested because he lied to police officer even though I told the officer he abuse me . I feel like there is no help in America for abused women and children

Omg thats horrible! I can’t imagine what you go through especially with three! Do you have completely no contact with friends and family or are they just not close by? I got a few numbers offline for help on domestic violence

https://www.thehotline.org/

https://victimconnect.org/

https://strongheartshelpline.org/

I Hope they are of some help and my best suggestion is to start recording whenever you feel threatened but don’t make it known you are recording so if that police incident were to ever happen again you have evidence xx

And you’re totally fine to feel drained, abuse is very draining and I know you’re feeling like giving up but the fact you’ve come on to peanut to acknowledge the situation is somewhat promising because deep down you don’t want to live like that anymore and only you can change that for you and your children, is there any shelters you know of in your state and food banks if they do that in the US not too sure on you guys systems sorry if it’s not very helpful x

I don’t have any family and friends

I don’t have family or friends

Okay no worries! My best bet would be getting in touch with one of those charities, finding a shelter close by your area, gathering some money and planning an escape plan so that you and your children are safe and sound then take life day by day as you try and find your feet x

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