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Help me!! My feet are swollen & I literally cannot get anything on my feet. Now it’s wet & colder I need something to be able to go out and about & I have a dog to walk. I have tried going up 2 sizes, still couldn’t get them on! Had a meltdown in the shops!

Can anyone recommend anything that’s actually easy to get on/off and isn’t sandals/flip flops/sliders?

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Crocs!

Fur lined ones x

Mine have been the exact same so I'm actually wearing my partners crocs 🤦🏼‍♀️😂 it's the only things I can get on my feet x

Would uggs be too hot? Just thinking they'd probably be easier and softest to slip on and off feet? X

I have uggs and can’t get them on 😭😭

I just can’t bear them and they don’t go with anything!

Defo crocs!

Or you could try sizing up and trying some shoes that are wide fit! New look do wide fit shoes x

I’d be careful with buying crocs if you don’t have a pair already as I have 15 pairs of crocs and not a singular pair fit on my feet right now, can’t get them past the top of my foot!

I ended up in deichmann and bought some £20 dupe ugg tasmans (the slip on platform type) and they’re genuinely the only shoes I can currently get on my feet apart from my dr marten lace up sandals (which I can’t really wear now it’s raining) x

@Jess did you have to size up in them or were them roomy enough in your usual size? Just found them online and going to order!

I’m usually a uk 4 and I believe I got a 5 xx

ooh I want some of these!! I bought some plain black ones in primark which I’m worried look like slippers

I bought the same ones, then popped into deichmann on the way out of the shopping centre as a last resort, found them and immediately returned the primark ones for the same reason haha x

ahh ok, I will see about the deichman ones but I think I’m just going to have to wear the others for now 😂

either way these are the only shoes apart from my nartilla docs that fit me right now so until he’s here and my swelling goes down I’m living in them 🤣🤣

yeah!! Just need wet weather shoes 👀

I’m just avoiding going out in the rain 🤣 luckily only got a week or two left so I’ll be a hobbit from now forward x

Sketchers trainers with no tie shoelaces from Amazon. Best purchase ever for my current swollen feet. They expand to your feet

Crocs! :)

I've so given up. I'm wearing socks and sliders.

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