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Me and my partner just ended things

And now im starting to feel very overwhelmed with whats to come.
Ive been here before with my first child but now 6 years later im in the same position but with 3 kids instead.
I've got a 10 year old, 2 year old and 6 month old. Im worried about how im going to cope physically, emotionally and financially. Im due back to work in january and im just stressing and wondering how I've got myself in this position again.
I just nervous about coping with everything on my own while being distraught my relationships over. He doesnt even seem to care which makes it worse. S0meone please say they are or have been in a similar situation because it all feels so impossible right now 😭

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May I ask why you guys ended things? It seems as if you weren’t truly ready to end it. Most men won’t just take on a child and get a woman pregnant twice without loving them. Maybe there is possibly some kind way to save the relationship!?!

many reasons. I want more attention/time spent together, hed rather do his own thing. Theres been disagreements about me going back to work, i want to to for my mental health and independence and hes worried I'll effect his hobbies. And the big one is that i share custody of my 10 year old with his dad and now my partners getting funny with me having him more than what was previously agreed. To the extent he said he'll leave. So here we are

If he's essentially making you choose between your son and him it isn't worth it, especially considering he wants to always do his own thing, doesn't make sense tbh

i know its the right thing and it was my decision in the end. Its just hard to accept after 5 years and 2 kids together

Its going to take sometime. Practically do you have somewhere to go? Even a parents while you find a place and come up with plans. Is hw planning to have the kids sometimes? This stuff will all come up but emotionally just take a day at a time and try and make a plan, do something for you! Have a wine ehen the kids are in bed and watch a sad movie and cry while eating icecream. Whatever you need

I'm in it right now 😣

I’d say that you are making the right decision based on your reply, but even so it feels like your ex should be sticking to the rules here! He’d agreed to certain terms and taken away what part your partner was happy with. You say you want more time with him, but you didn’t stick up for your agreement with the ex!?! Seems like there are hidden agendas here. When are his hobbies more important than your needs? 🤦🏻‍♀️ I honestly don’t get some people

in our community

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

Partner no longer wants baby #2

Before our son was born we originally both wanted minimum 2 kids but we were hoping for 3-4. My partner found the birth traumatic to watch and also struggled a lot with the newborn/baby stage. He no longer wants to have any more children and it’s completely breaking my heart. I need another baby. We’ve spoken about it a lot and the options. He said he wasn’t COMPLETELY closed off to it so I asked him to try and work through his feelings and reconsider his decision. He eventually said he definitely doesn’t want another. I know that I will always want one and my feelings will never change. Do we have to break up or does anyone know anything else I can do to help change his mind? Has anyone else’s partner said this and then changed their mind? I don’t want to break up because I adore him and our life together and I’d hate to split up our family for “selfish” reasons and make my son miss out on having both of us together but I just don’t know what to do

Nursery funding

My child turned 9 months last week. I applied for government funded hours nearly 2 months ago and so well within the required timeframe for the April term, however upon receiving my first invoice without the funding applied and having questioned this, I have now been informed that the stretched funding doesn’t start until 4th May.

Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

Jealous of my husband

I’m so jealous of him and it’s making me resentful. We have a ten week old and I’m jealous that he is at work all day. I’m jealous he can leave for lunch and actually eat an uninterrupted lunch. Take a phone call uninterrupted. Chat with a friend he runs in to uninterrupted. Even go to the bathroom when he wants uninterrupted. He comes home from work when he wants. He’s not on a set schedule. Some days are late some are early. It depends on when he’s done. I’m jealous he can come home at 10pm and shower, eat and go right to bed uninterrupted because I already have the baby asleep. He doesn’t have to worry about anything house wise or baby wise because I’ve done it all. Meanwhile I’m covered in puke and crap and smell like rotten milk. When he is home he is VERY active and helpful. So it’s not that. I’m just jealous his world hasn’t changed and mine has I guess. This isn’t something he’s doing wrong so I’m not sure how to get past this. I wish I could keep him home all day because that’s how helpful he is, but I understand he obv needs to work.

NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

Toddlers

How often are your toddlers asking for food? My oldest who is 3 just finished a whole plate of food and not even 10 minutes later he’s requesting more food. I know he’s going through a growth spurt, but how do you respond to this.