Weird or not ?

Oooof. I do not like that. At least with the toy there’s an excuse (probably something along the lines of “we just want her to have toys here so that she has something to do here when she visits”) but the cash seems like straight up manipulation. I would definitely bring it up. “You probably don’t intend to manipulate her feelings but the fact is whether intentional or not it will make her want to see you more at your place rather than her seeing you at our place. Whether intended or not I do not appreciate that manipulation. If you really would like to do something good please give that money to her savings account. If you would rather give her pocket money for spending it will not be tied to visits.”

I don’t think that’s weird to be honest, it’s nice little one will have things there to play with. I also wouldn’t expect them to come with anything if they’re buying toys quite often x

Someone is definitely trying to condition your kiddo. I don't think it would bug me, it's kinda smart to try to elicite good emotions regarding her home. It's a little extreme, but it's not bad to want her grand baby to be excited to be at their house. You can just see it as her helping to develop fond memories there. Now, if there was a few other things related to control, I'd think more into it. But otherwise happy someone cares about my kiddo this much.

My husband and I always have a box of toys available for my 3 nephews which we regularly add to, never any expensive toys though, just cheap small things. We do this purely due to the fact that my SIL never brings any toys when they visit, so the boys get bored. Also I love them and want them to have nice things whilst in my care/visiting me! I don't see anything suspect about the toys, the money one maybe? But I often used to get money when I visited my grandparents as a child so I don't really think it's weird 🤷‍♀️

I think its manipulation, especially if she's like that to begin with, she may be doing something "nice" on the outside but it's not nice she knows what she's doing and she's eliciting strong emotional responses when all the "good" things are happening over there to make her want to go over more just for toys and money, it would be one thing if they were just giving people but they're not gifting anything for your place whatsoever, only there's, definitely weird to me

The toys part seems fine to me. Gives the little one something to be excited for when visiting. The cash, I'm iffy on that. When I was growing up, my grandparents/great grandparents started to give us small bits of change, maybe a dollar here and there. With the intention of us putting it directly into our piggy banks. I know inflation is a thing, but $10 is a bit excessive to me.

It sounds okay until you say she’s a manipulator. If she is, then I would be curious about her intentions. I wonder how far she will go down the line.

it’s not working she don’t ever ask for her or to go to her house 🥴
My side of the family has spent more time with her and she asks for them everyday , she knows that to because my daughter talks about them while at her house and she don’t like it

I was given money by my grandparents at their home and mine but not always just randomly

same